why is he acting like this? pls help a girl out🙏

I’ve been dealing with a guy who is SO confusing i swear. he's 100% interested in me and ive even heard about it from his cousins but REFUSES to speak to me. I can also tell from his super obvious body language. for example, he NEVER and i mean NEVERRR keeps his eyes off me, he's always around me, his friends act different around me, and he's always fixing his hair around me. Besides body language and 24/7 eye contact, i never get signs of interest from him. It was my birthday recently and he never even said happy birthday, knowing very clearly it was my birthday with all my friends posting me and almost all my social media apps he follows me on telling everyone it is my bday. i cant even get a hello from him. ive come to the conclusion that he’s just shy and nervous around me but i just dont understand why. On my part, ive tried to initiate conversation with him MULTIPLE times and ive gotten a response from him before but it never turned into a conversation. i dont know why he doesnt talk to me or try and start a small conversation with me even though ive tried. is he just that nervous or does he not like me and im just delusional?

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Sounds like he's afraid of premature rejection. I'd mark him in the super shy column. With shy people it is not about how approachable you make yourself seem. There is this security barrier with all people and bringing that down even for someone who seems approachable is difficult and terrifying. If you like him you may need to take the initiative and bluntly ask him out. You can't hint at it by trying to coax him into conversations. He's second guessing every word he speaks right now.

And the attitudes of many of the other posters here reinforce that fear. A man being shy is immature or is not into you or is not worth the effort to pursue? To hell with that toxic extroversion noise. I've been that guy. I was also the most mature among my peers. I would have been over the moon for some girl I liked had the willingness to make the first move. Us shy guys play out so many scenarios in our head that we paralyze ourselves.