FRIENDSHIP

Hi
Over five years ago, I had this friend of mine and she was the best thing I could ever have, I could vent to her and she didn't judge me but one day we had this huge argument over things we were venting to one another and ended up insulting and putting each other down.
She is someone whom I did anything for if she needed me but when I needed her she always came up with excuses.
To cut the story short, she and I are no longer friends and ever since then I can't seem to have friends in my life, the friends I do have, I can't vent to or fully show my emotions coz I'm afraid their gonna judge me.
How do I overcome this and be more genuine towards new people in my life?

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Busybee333 · 31-35, F

If it is only about venting to someone, do it here on SW or see a professional therapist to help you heal and think clearly. If it is her, the person, the time you have spent, find her. Talk to her. Or write to her exactly how you feel. I don't know your friend, but chances are, she might be wondering how you have been or missing you too (you never know) . It may be late, though a heartfelt and sincere apology, an attempt of reconciliation, could potentially spark a revival of your friendship (or at least part of it). Try it, what do you have to lose?

MANANDOS · 22-25

@Busybee333 Thank you for such good advise, I've tried to reconcile with her but it feels like I was the only one making an effort to build our friendship again. I want to get over her coz of that.
Even if we do reconcile, it won't be like before, we won't trust each other like we used to.