My night got ruined over a cup of ramen noodle As a new mother, I’ve been busy caring for my...

SW-User

There’s this thing , I forgot what’s it called , but it’s a psychological trick, where when you ask someone for a favor and they do it very poorly so you don’t ask them again. Not sure if he did that but a lot of men use this technique so their wives don’t bother them with stuff. I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s the small things that matter in relationship.

NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F

Youre not wrong to be upset. Also being a new mom is hard. Being a single mom is even harder. I cannot even imagine being a single mom while not being a single mom. I wish I could do something to help you. The struggles youre going through today will help you later in life. Im sorry theyre such hard lessons though.

SW-User

You've just had a child, your body is stressed, your hormones all over the place, you're unable to take care of yourself in an optimal way - it is bound to take a toll. And it is okay to cry and let all that is pent up out.
Whether or not you love him, you had a baby with him and just out of his humanity, you are entitled to some care and consideration from him.
You can't find validation from people with such little care in them. I am sorry.
It won't be long before you're stronger and thriving. Don't focus on him. Focus on yourself and on how to implement self care around your baby's needs.
If you have family and friends you can call on, don't be shy.

beermeplease · M

he sounds like a dick. i've never had kids with a partner but i'd bend over backwards for my baby's mother if i had one. i wish you all the luck with this guy...for your sake and your baby's sake...🫂

PoetryNEmotion · F

Being a new mom is exhausting. Your spouse needs to help you more. Try asking him to. As women, we often feel we must do everything especially when it comes to babies. I want you to discuss this part about not loving him anymore. With him. You feel so sad and unloved. Why? This is something that may be fixed if you both are willing to work on it. Can you get a night away? Sleep a whole night? You need a break. Communicate this to him. Takes time to feel strong again after having a baby. Best of luck.

Lexmark1 · 36-40, M

no worries mom you got this. Things will EVENTUALLY settle into a routine. Not sure how he grew up so he may not know you have to wait for the kettle to whistle before it is ready. Remember to take time to yourself, your not going to do anyone any favors by not looking after yourself, that was the hardest thing my wife had to learn because she puts others first.

Layla07 · 26-30, F

I don't even love him anymore well in that case i would tell you to heat your own damn noodles

SW-User

I'm sorry you're going through this. Being a new mom is hard enough without believing you can rely on someone who won't even help. I think all your feelings and concerns are valid and even if hormonal the least your child's father can do is help the mother of his child raise his child.

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

req89hikowquou

Cup of ramen are sooo good i can see why you're upset. I wish I had some. I would never be that way if i had a woman. Sorry to hear

helenS · 36-40, F

"Husband" in quotation marks?? Why??

SW-User

That small ask would have meant the world to you, I'm sorry. When we need some help the most, the smallest measures for how small they are, but someone is there to give that for you, for they love you, is what makes a world of difference in our hearts. It's the simplest gesture of care in love that often matter the most.

Sojournersoul · M

Could have taken a few minutes to make sure it was hot and thought about you and not a game. Wonder why you dont love him.

iamBen · M

Your understandably under a lot of stress, tired and sleep deprived. He should stop the damn game and get involved in caring for you and your child.

SW-User

New mother?? Maybe it’s the blues or depression you’re feeling? I guess it’s common after giving birth. Maybe time will make it better.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

It’s immature to put his game over you!!