Im so sad i don’t know what ti do

I feel horrible I don’t know what to do
I barely fall in love. Last time I was in love was when I was around 12 years old, and I think I’ve fallen for someone again but they have a gf already. Im handling it pretty well and I genuinely think he’s best off with her anyways, but I can’t help but question my own self worth. The ONE time I fall in love, it’s with a guy I can’t even get. And not to mention that I have extreme social anxiety, so I can’t even talk to him.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Remember these instances and learn from them.

Don't criticize yourself about past experiences. They are the past. Yet ask yourself what you could do better, then actually do it.

Your inaction isn't something you wish to continue. You can do it. Especially since you're over 18 now, I hope!

Yet do question your own motivations. Ask yourself why you want to do anything with whomever. Especially if you're being social pressured, say by friends.

Don't consider what is expected of you. That is not how you feel. Rather what everyone else expects of you.

Social pressure is not what you feel. So if you believe you need to ask, then ASK!

You'll get nowhere quickly not asking. Which is exactly what today's society wants! Societies attitude is to do nothing! Don't live. Don't learn.

Wait and don't do anything is social pressure! Even if it's your friends, much less anyone else!

I had my own crushes even younger than you. Each one was a learning experience. I regret none of those experiences. That I was disappointed or even hurt didn't matter. I went on and learned from it. I don't talk much about those early experiences. Still don't regret any of them.

Learning is life! No matter at what age. At eight years old or at eight times longer.