Normal to feel more mad after an apology?

Is it normal for me to get more mad atter my partner apologizes? Not long ago, my family was having a meeting because my grandmother is really sick. I saw my partner look at his phone and it just made me mad because he is always on his phone and ignoring a situation! Well, i went off to cool down and when he found me we talked for a little. After everything i said, all he said was sorry. Idk, it didnt feel like enough...he does it a lot, all he says is "im sorry" and expects the argument to just stop.

NOTE: my partner and i have been together for 4 years and he does this often. He claims he "doesn't know what else to say" no matter how many times I ask him. I just want to know if I'm over reacting and he's being honest, or if it's justifiable for me to be a little snippy still. Thank you guys for the help <3

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BobaTea · 18-21, F

It’s understandable that you would feel upset and frustrated when your partner is on their phone during a family meeting, especially when it is about something as important as your grandmother being sick. It's likely that you felt hurt and disregarded that he wasn't prioritizing the meeting, which is why the apology may not have felt like enough. You're allowed to feel your feelings and to express your frustrations about the situation to your partner. However, it’s important to remember that everyone handles apologies and confrontation differently. It's possible that he didn't know how to express himself more fully and felt that the apology was all he knew to d