my mother's unhealed trauma

i hate my mom and love her at the same time. she forbid me to do something i like. whenever i ask her to go out or something she will always tell me no. then proceeds to tell everything about everything she went through when she was at my age. that even her, she couldn't do anything she want. that on her teenage years she was also treated by my grandmother like this. it's like she's passing her traumas on me. it's becoming heavey. i don't know what to do. i am mad and sad at the same time, because of her traumas.

lol excuse my graham, i am not that fluent in english lololol

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Disgustedman · 61-69, M

Yeah I know how you feel, my mother was the same way. I could count on one hand minus two or three fingers how many times she said "I love you" For years I sought her approval or her blessings on anything nothing in fact it was pick pick pick pick.

I finally decided to quit letting those memories bother me and I am slowly healing it's a little late for me so I suggest you start early just put the feelings to the side don't reflect on don't think about that think about beautiful things think about bunny rabbits squirrels whatever but don't dwell on the bad.

You may find that she wasn't so much unlike you at all.

mentallyunstablebiatch · 22-25, F

@Disgustedman i am so proud and happy for you! and thank you also