Dontwant2beknown · 16-17
I am so sorry for your loss, I can’t even imagine the pain. I am also very close to my dad. I just don’t have any words I’m so sorry. I was told to remember the good times you had with the people you’ve lost and surround yourself with other good people you trust. Take back your daily good habits and remember that he loved you. I hope you find a good space and time to both cope and mourn. I hope everything works out for you, I really do
Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25
We are human. It is understandable when you lose someone dear that it shakes across every fabric in your life. I lost someone dear to me and I found I couldn't enjoy things for some time. It slowly comes back after you process things and it takes time
Just remember that humans are meant to heal. The same way when you get a cut on your hand, you don't rush to the hospital, your body heals naturally, that's exactly how your mind heals as well. It takes time and the best way to let muddy water clear up is to have it sit still. So have patience and allow yourself to feel how you feel. Do not fight it. I admire your self-respect for your image to put up a front for other people but it's not about them. It's you.
Everything you described sounds like someone in deep emotional pain. That's understandable.
It's okay to be hurt. Let yourself be hurt. You're not wrong for it and you're not wrong for your father's passing. It was not in your hands and you clearly did not want that, so be gentle and know that we do not control this world. Have gladtidings knowing that the pain goes away and soon after a period of experiencing hardships, you'll be okay amd begin to experience ease as you readjust. And if it's not okay, you can make it okay :)
There is more than hope. But sometimes we go through these tough times. You're not alone. Just hang in there and be strong and seek guidance and truth. You'll make it through and you've done a remarkable job expressing yourself
Just remember that humans are meant to heal. The same way when you get a cut on your hand, you don't rush to the hospital, your body heals naturally, that's exactly how your mind heals as well. It takes time and the best way to let muddy water clear up is to have it sit still. So have patience and allow yourself to feel how you feel. Do not fight it. I admire your self-respect for your image to put up a front for other people but it's not about them. It's you.
Everything you described sounds like someone in deep emotional pain. That's understandable.
It's okay to be hurt. Let yourself be hurt. You're not wrong for it and you're not wrong for your father's passing. It was not in your hands and you clearly did not want that, so be gentle and know that we do not control this world. Have gladtidings knowing that the pain goes away and soon after a period of experiencing hardships, you'll be okay amd begin to experience ease as you readjust. And if it's not okay, you can make it okay :)
There is more than hope. But sometimes we go through these tough times. You're not alone. Just hang in there and be strong and seek guidance and truth. You'll make it through and you've done a remarkable job expressing yourself
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
Depending on where you live, there are a lot more social support systems for younger people, esp. when it comes to getting a post-secondary education.
The best you can hope to do is find counselling, piece your confidence/self-esteem back together, and Just put one foot in front of the other.
Friends, family, those are important anchors for stability and building your own tribe/family.
Get counselling. Call a hotline. Go to emergency if you need. They'll understand this depression better than I can.
You took a major blow to your life, and it would be traumatic for anyone.
You lost some limbs, and it's not apparent, but it's important.
I would recommend...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (start there tonight if you want)
Action Commitment Therapy
Lots of walks, find positive habits. Learn to cook. Learn everything.
Listen to your feelings. Learn to work with and find space for them. It's not about feeling good all the time, it's about feeling at peace even when we feel torn up.
Fall in love with every moment, because your life is precious. You just as easily be as important as your parents one day, but to someone else. You could easily be that right now.
Suicide is like a blackhole that opens up and swallows tons of things with it. It's natural to feel the way you feel. Your parents did good. Keep that going. The habit of being good isn't always easy, but it always pays-off.
The best you can hope to do is find counselling, piece your confidence/self-esteem back together, and Just put one foot in front of the other.
Friends, family, those are important anchors for stability and building your own tribe/family.
Get counselling. Call a hotline. Go to emergency if you need. They'll understand this depression better than I can.
You took a major blow to your life, and it would be traumatic for anyone.
You lost some limbs, and it's not apparent, but it's important.
I would recommend...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (start there tonight if you want)
Action Commitment Therapy
Lots of walks, find positive habits. Learn to cook. Learn everything.
Listen to your feelings. Learn to work with and find space for them. It's not about feeling good all the time, it's about feeling at peace even when we feel torn up.
Fall in love with every moment, because your life is precious. You just as easily be as important as your parents one day, but to someone else. You could easily be that right now.
Suicide is like a blackhole that opens up and swallows tons of things with it. It's natural to feel the way you feel. Your parents did good. Keep that going. The habit of being good isn't always easy, but it always pays-off.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
It's common to blame oneself when a person we loved very much passes. It wasn't your fault and it would have happened anyway sooner or later, you can't control or overpower death. ❤️
You're in a grief process now and it can seem like you're not yourself or you think you react in ways that are wrong, but there's no wrong way to grief. ❤️
You're probably in shock still and it's why you can't cry. Grief is a lonely feeling so it's natural to feel lonely. It's also not unusual to isolate while grieving but try to reach out to people, you can grieve without completely stopping your life.
Last but not least. My great condolences. I can see how much he meant to you. ❤️
You're in a grief process now and it can seem like you're not yourself or you think you react in ways that are wrong, but there's no wrong way to grief. ❤️
You're probably in shock still and it's why you can't cry. Grief is a lonely feeling so it's natural to feel lonely. It's also not unusual to isolate while grieving but try to reach out to people, you can grieve without completely stopping your life.
Last but not least. My great condolences. I can see how much he meant to you. ❤️
idksomeone222 · 18-21
@Queendragonfly thank you so much, i really do appreciate your words and thank you for the advice <3
Pfuzylogic · M
You are not responsible at any level. Your feeling may come from your need for him. The tears of grief will come when you are relaxed and feel safe to let go. For now understand that your experience of holding in is a way of protecting ourselves.,He knew you loved him.
That is what is important.
That is what is important.
AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F
I'm so sorry you feel this way but I completely understand "where" you are coming from.
Could you perhaps get some grief counselling in your RL?
Could you perhaps get some grief counselling in your RL?