I tried so hard

We would have been married 5 years this October. My husband told me 2 days ago that he wants out. He told me that we just aren’t communicating right and that we’ve grown apart and he just isn’t feeling the spark between us. He gave me a warning about this a month ago and I tried so hard to show him that I’m willing to put in the effort to keep our relationship going but everything I tried made him more distant. Yesterday, as a last stitch effort I wrote a heartfelt letter to him but the answer is still the same. I guess deep down I knew he wasn’t going to change his answer but i really hoped he would. He told me part of his reasoning for not changing his mind is because it would be a slap in the face to everyone if he goes back on his initial decision and that he pour a ton a time in coming to his initial decision and even how he told me. I’m just heartbroken…

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Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

Such a shame to read this . However difficult the facts must be grappled with. Aside from 'deep love' a husbands core wish is to protect his wife & family.

For most men settling for anything less than this feels like a failure in his duty of care

It's the reason women are the ones who will mostly file for divorce & not men.

Knowing he is no longer interested in keeping his family together, suggests your continuing to try working at the marriage will be a waste of you energy & emotions. Which at this stage are better directed elsewhere.

You are entering a phase which is about
surviving while retaining dignity.

Redirect your energies on 'loving all the more ' your children & those who are supporting you throughout this is horrendous in your life.

You will come out of this okay people do.
This WILL be the making of you ... And not the end.

I wish you and your family all of the best in the future 💗