I tried so hard

We would have been married 5 years this October. My husband told me 2 days ago that he wants out. He told me that we just aren’t communicating right and that we’ve grown apart and he just isn’t feeling the spark between us. He gave me a warning about this a month ago and I tried so hard to show him that I’m willing to put in the effort to keep our relationship going but everything I tried made him more distant. Yesterday, as a last stitch effort I wrote a heartfelt letter to him but the answer is still the same. I guess deep down I knew he wasn’t going to change his answer but i really hoped he would. He told me part of his reasoning for not changing his mind is because it would be a slap in the face to everyone if he goes back on his initial decision and that he pour a ton a time in coming to his initial decision and even how he told me. I’m just heartbroken…

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LadyGrace ·

I am truly sorry that he is not willing to work on the marriage, but that shows truly where his heart is, in wanting you to do all the work in the marriage. He's the loser in this situation. He doesn't understand what commitment means and those vows. I know it hurts now, but you can't lose what you never had and I'm sorry that he was so deceiving. You're better off without him. Don't pine over this guy. He's not worth it and he doesn't deserve you. What you really need to do, is kick him out, if he wants nothing to do with you and working on the marriage. Show him how strong you are and then look forward to finding someone who knows how to treat you respectfully and give you the love you deserve. I wouldn't cry one tear over this guy. And especially, please, don't blame yourself for this. Don't do that to yourself. I wouldn't waste a tear over him. I know it's hard and I deeply empathize with you, but you [b]will[/b] be okay and you [b]will[/b] go on to a better life and that's really something to look forward to. I wouldn't dare give him the satisfaction of showing that you're upset. This is what he wanted so let him lay in his own bed. In fact, I wouldn't say one more word to him. I would let him go ahead and do what he wants to do and act like it doesn't bother me at all, because it really wouldn't. Been there, done that. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get on with your life. You'll be much happier than trying to live with someone who sounds like a narcissist. Don't fight him. Don't waste your time. Let him go ahead and get the divorce. That's what he's planning on anyway. I'll keep you in my prayers and pray that God will heal your heart soon. He will guide you and take care of you.