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i don’t know what to do

im in high school and im white. my asian “friends” keep on being racist towards me and disguising it as a joke. they keep on saying things like [quote]all white people do is bully other cultures[/quote] and other things. they make fun of me a lot for simply being white, and talk to me like i am stupid. they treat me like as if i have never seen anything before and talk to me condescendingly. they have been doing this for a while now and i feel like since i didnt stand up for myself before, they think it is okay to do that.
they hit me if i dont do what they say or protest.
they dont do this stuff to other people, just me.
sometimes i talk normally and they put words in my mouth trying to me seem racist all the time.

they speak in their own language to each other a lot and they know i dont understand. when i ask what they are saying, they talk ti me condescendingly saying things like [quote]oh of course you wouldnt know[/quote], and keeps talking in chinese to the other friend.
i know they bond over the things they have in common, and also over putting me down
i know this friendship is bad for me, and i have wanted to end this friendship for ages. it makes me feel like crap everyday and i dread going to school because of them.

the problem is, other friend groups are already established, and some that seems to be open are toxic in their own ways too, so im stuck. does anyone have any advice?
elafina · 31-35, F
I feel a little bit of what you are talking about. I was out with a Chinese newly made friend in Korea and she referred to me, using my [i][b]white privilege[/b][/i] a few times.
But a week ago I experienced this [i][b]white privileged entitlement[/b][/i] from a nothern European guy, in China.
So the thing they refer to is a stereotype but with some examples that are backing it up.
Of course that has nothing to do with me or you, but it's there.
Remove yourself from them. Stay by yourself till you find other, real friends. They're not nice people and the worst is, they don't even understand what they're talking about. They're becoming that which they're blaming, racists...
SubstantialKick · 31-35, M
Friends? They sure as hell are not your friends.
Become friendless and focus on yourself and your future.
Joeyyy · 26-30, M
Yeah they're not friends, you have to respect yourself and really show that you're not the person to take that.

You let them do it, stop letting them do it. Don't associate with them, if someone else tries the same you do something about it.
hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Grow a thicker skin and get on with life. Whining about it won't help.

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