How do i deal with social anxiety

Does anyone know what may help me with my social anxiety? I can't take any meds because my mom doesn't wanna take me to a doctor or let me go myself, but i really struggle with my social anxiety. I try to tell my mom but she just tells me 'stop acting like this just Change yourself'. She's making things kinda worst for me tbh like i can't change I'm a introverted, awkward, overthinking person with anxiety,it's literally ruining my life! My grades are getting worst because i can't ask for help im scared people will think im dumb and stuff like that! Or as another example i can't talk with my friends it's just hard for me to talk with then sometimes because im just so scared they'll hate me and I'll have no friends and everyone will think im a weirdo! Which some people probably already think like the moment i talk more then 3 sentences people start asking 'omg! Why don't you never talk?' it's just annoying like do yall think i get bad grades, have bad relationships with my friends, cry myself to sleep every night because im scared to go school and talk to people? Like i just hate everybody there i wish i could just be home schooled. (sorry if my grammers bad English isn't my first language l)

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Ynotisay · M

First, your English is excellent. And those things you mentioned struggling with actually can change. But your Mom is right to a point. YOU have to change them. But that's what therapy is for. Therapists give you the tools and exercises and then it's up to you to work on them.

I have a close friend who has a big therapy practice and what she's said is that Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) can be very effective with people struggling with anxiety. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is another. Those are about finding solutions to problems and changing how you approach issues.

My suggestion is to look in to the types of therapies that are available to you. Depending on where you live there might be some no-cost options. You DON'T want to take drugs.

But just putting in to motion the idea of getting some help can make a big difference for people. It's because they are taking control of the situation. It can be empowering. Good luck!