He wont even tell me what happened

I miss him every single day. I dream about him every single night. I can't even fall asleep because I can't get him off my mind. He was the best friend I've ever had in my whole life. I was in love with him to. It's almost been a year. How am I supposed to heal? I though I would spend my life with him. I've never loved anyone more. I miss him so much. So so so much. I tried talking to him. I don't even know why we aren't friends anymore. He told me it was personal. Please Harevs. Please. I love you Harvey. I love you forever. No matter what. Love, Gracie

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Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@GRacie3333 If you love him as you say, then be glad for his future happiness with someone that he loves. If he stayed with you he would never be happy, which would eventually anger you beyond belief. So, do yourself a favor and be glad that he is giving you a chance to find someone who will love you as your are and whom you will also love.

Break-ups can be hard because it appears that you are being rejected. But look at it like an opportunity to have a chance to be with someone who will really cherish you and stick with you through thick and thin.

Consider this break-up as a death and have a funeral service for your relationship. Don't try to resurrect it. Put on your smiley face and go forth on the road to true love. You will be happy.

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GRacie3333 · 22-25, F

@Diotrephes I hope so. I really do. He told me he would love me forever but I should have known it was empty words.

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@GRacie3333 If you are in a situation where you see each other often, you may want to discuss how you should relate to each other. For instance, if you are in a social setting will you say hello to each other or will you simply look through the other person as if you re looking at a piece of furniture or a wall?

GRacie3333 · 22-25, F

@Diotrephes we make eye contact all they time. so much. but we never say anything to each other

Mamapolo2016 · F

This is always hard, but it's completely doable.

Don't sit by yourself and mourn. It won't accomplish anything.

Change up some things. New hairstyle, new music, go new places. Distract yourself until you can act yourself again.

On only this website there are hundreds of people who have been broken-hearted and got past it. You will too, if you want to.

Don't let Harvey live in your head rent-free.

TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M

That's just how things happen sometimes.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

@Diotrephes That may be.

akshamaeh7331

@Mamapolo2016 no i meant just her feelings dont matter.. as long as shes safe and shes not in any kind of danger shell be fine. People just need to suck it up lol.. Sheesh. no big deal . she should have known what kinds of guys shes dating. Some girls get used like that because theyre not careful. I woudlnt do that. But you cant feel bad for a girl who goes through this. You just cant. Shes the one who gave herself up so easily.

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@akshamaeh7331[quote] no i meant just her feelings dont matter.. as long as shes safe and shes not in any kind of danger shell be fine. People just need to suck it up lol.. Sheesh. no big deal . she should have known what kinds of guys shes dating. Some girls get used like that because theyre not careful. I woudlnt do that. But you cant feel bad for a girl who goes through this. You just cant. Shes the one who gave herself up so easily.[/quote]

It's basic human nature for people to gravitate toward others like the ones they grew-up with. For example, if a child had abusive parents the child will seek out a partner who is abusive. That is because that is the type of person the child (now adult) is comfortable with although the person might hate the abuser. The person won't really be happy with someone who is nice until the person changes him/herself to become comfortable with a nicer person.

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-i-stopped-being-everything-i-hated-about-my-parents/

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-spot-abusive-people-and-stop-getting-into-toxic-relationships/

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