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I'm at my fucking limit being alone all the time
18-21, T
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At 21, you'll be getting close to achieving your 1st degree, yes?
One way to socialise is to allow extra time on campus.
Ask fellow students if they'd like to join you for a coffee.
Or notice if small groups from your class congregate in the nearest coffee zone before or after classes, and join them. Just find a gap and sit listening for a while - and when you feel you have something to contribute or ask that's relevant to their topic, offer it.
Most people love to be asked about themselves (though some think it's "nosy"). If they prevaricate, then they're probably the sort that prefer to stick to science topics, nothing personal.
If you love helping, would you have enough time to offer 4 hrs a week at some charity?
About exams; they design them so that people who do the work will actually succeed. So I doubt you need worry on that score.
About confidence; you probably already know that as long as you do the work you can't fail and will do well.
About the desire to be on top - is that a kind of compensation gig for feeling perhaps low confidence in other areas?
Not so helpful to feed the ego stuff; the balloon that goes up often gets pricked and falls hard. Better to aim for self-acceptance and self-nurture (the kind an ideal mother would provide).
Putting ego aside, coming top academically is still a [i]practical[/i] goal.
It gives you more choices when you complete your degree, such as continuing on to masters and doctorate levels and finding real work in research later on.
What branches of biology attract you most?
As a T, what pronoun do you prefer?
How far along are you in transition?
Have you joined T groups? They're great for mutual understanding and support, and they're an entry point for LGBTQI?+ culture and sub-cultures.
This is World Pride Week. There are bound to be celebrations going on everywhere - a great way to meet people when they're in a festive mood.
One way to socialise is to allow extra time on campus.
Ask fellow students if they'd like to join you for a coffee.
Or notice if small groups from your class congregate in the nearest coffee zone before or after classes, and join them. Just find a gap and sit listening for a while - and when you feel you have something to contribute or ask that's relevant to their topic, offer it.
Most people love to be asked about themselves (though some think it's "nosy"). If they prevaricate, then they're probably the sort that prefer to stick to science topics, nothing personal.
If you love helping, would you have enough time to offer 4 hrs a week at some charity?
About exams; they design them so that people who do the work will actually succeed. So I doubt you need worry on that score.
About confidence; you probably already know that as long as you do the work you can't fail and will do well.
About the desire to be on top - is that a kind of compensation gig for feeling perhaps low confidence in other areas?
Not so helpful to feed the ego stuff; the balloon that goes up often gets pricked and falls hard. Better to aim for self-acceptance and self-nurture (the kind an ideal mother would provide).
Putting ego aside, coming top academically is still a [i]practical[/i] goal.
It gives you more choices when you complete your degree, such as continuing on to masters and doctorate levels and finding real work in research later on.
What branches of biology attract you most?
As a T, what pronoun do you prefer?
How far along are you in transition?
Have you joined T groups? They're great for mutual understanding and support, and they're an entry point for LGBTQI?+ culture and sub-cultures.
This is World Pride Week. There are bound to be celebrations going on everywhere - a great way to meet people when they're in a festive mood.
FloatingAcrossTheStream · 18-21, M
I relate to losing interest in things you once loved. I used to LOVE learning languages, learning piano and reading books. Now-a-days i forcefully push myself to even make food i used to enjoy.
I used to be super lonely. Wake up, shower, work, eat, sleep, repeat. For 3-4 years. Little to no interactions with humans beyond basic pleasantries and such.
I known it will sound dorky, and probably wont have good connotations for you, but try to game.
Easily the best way to make friends, hop on twitter for games like valorant and make some mutuals there. Plenty of people who will befriend you.
Will it fulfill your want for IRL human interaction? Not really, but its a small step to felling more human and "present". Small talk and small friendships come a long way with helping your mental.
Hope it will help you, or at least give you some comfort in knowing you are not alone :)
I used to be super lonely. Wake up, shower, work, eat, sleep, repeat. For 3-4 years. Little to no interactions with humans beyond basic pleasantries and such.
I known it will sound dorky, and probably wont have good connotations for you, but try to game.
Easily the best way to make friends, hop on twitter for games like valorant and make some mutuals there. Plenty of people who will befriend you.
Will it fulfill your want for IRL human interaction? Not really, but its a small step to felling more human and "present". Small talk and small friendships come a long way with helping your mental.
Hope it will help you, or at least give you some comfort in knowing you are not alone :)
AnotherBlur · 18-21, M
@FloatingAcrossTheStream I think making friends through games is only going to make you feel worse tbh
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