Am I wrong?

My ex partner, father of my 3 children 11,10 & 8 is living in the family home, he pays £100 a week, that includes his contribution to the upkeep of the 3 children, rent (he has his own room) gas electric use of WiFi tv and all toiletries plus food, he doesn’t lift a finger around the house. He doesn’t help with clothing, hair cuts ect for the children everything is taken care of by me, he said he can’t afford more than £100 he only earns £382 a week after tax, he has no car and a monthly contract mobile phone. Is this acceptable ? What would you do?

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MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M

It does appear that he should be contributing a greater proportion of his income.
However, it depends on what he does with the rest of his income.
For example, if he is saving for a deposit to get his own place perhaps it's worth it to finally get him out from under your feet.

Jo17anne · 41-45, F

@MrAverage1965 I wish, he has 0 money saved he actually asks to borrow money, the absolute cheek!

MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M

@Jo17anne I think it's time you asked him to find a place if his own.

Jo17anne · 41-45, F

@MrAverage1965 thing is I know his freeloading I know I don’t want him here! I think I just needed people to agree with me because I often think I’m being mean when I get mad about it, I can’t talk to friends about it, I’m embarrassed I allow it