My heart is crushed

I started talking to this guy who broke up with his ex-gf weeks ago. I know, that's very weird, but he talked to me first, and I have liked him for a while but I didn't do anything about it because I and his ex-gf know each other. We aren't friends though. Anyway, he seemed like he was moving on and we have been talking to each other a lot lately. We have deep convos but everything has remained friendly. Now, he reached out to me saying he got feelings for his ex-gf again. My stomach dropped when I saw the text. He mentioned that he and his ex had a convo and she said he was the right guy at the wrong time. He still really loves her and that broke my heart. I gave him advice and remained calm, but to be honest, I just want to cry. He's my type in every single way. We even have the same top 3 college choices, the same music taste, and the same anime test. We also have a similar sense of humor and we're both very academically sound. I just want to vent because I'm so freaking sad rn.

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Xalvadora · 18-21, F

This is what happens when you expect too much from someone. Not sure if you're a guy and fell in love with the guy or you're a female, but all I got to say is that you push your feelings to the side and continue being his friend and support him despite you having feelings for him. I know it'll be hard. You can even tell him your feelings regardless if he's still in love with his ex. Maybe that's one way to push the feelings aside is to let it out verbally.
Who knows? Maybe he likes you too and is currently in a dilemma. Men are hard to read, so there's possibilities that he may have feelings for you or just needed someone to talk to.

twiceisthebestkpopgroup · 18-21, F

@Xalvadora Thank you. I'll continue being his friend because I don't want to lose him. I'll also try to build up the courage to tell him how I feel, maybe after a few weeks from now. I don't want to confuse him right now or make him feel like he has to cater to my feelings. And I'm a girl btw. I appreciate your advice.