my bf secretly dating my best friend

they dated for a long time without my knowledge, i just found out today, my best friend who dates my bf, told me. idk if theyre dating or no but they once went dating only two of them. not once but twice, not twice . i dont know how much. she only told me the newest. They even touching. they giggling, they.. it was so hurtful. it hurts to hear .it hurts to type. im so disappointed. he manipulated me, he lied to me, Even my OWN CLOSE FRIEnd lied to me. im glad she confessed everything today. disgusting

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hartfire · 61-69

Some people actively prefer polyamory, menage a trois, pansexuality or group marriages.

What is more important to you, the sexual straying or his lying and secrecy about it?

But for you I'd guess it's time to end it with him.

If monogamy is the only path for you, then you need to find out (before new a relationship starts) whether monogamy is his natural and default mode. Discuss your pasts: disclose venereal health, pregnancies, contraception, why past relationships have failed and what you've both learned. Co-create agreements about what each needs, expects and is willing to give.

Whether a man double-deals reveals his character; has almost nothing to do with his declared beliefs and morals. Some men are naturally faithful. His history is an excellent guide but religion is not. Less good looking, charming and successful men get far fewer opportunities to stray and are more likely to be faithful.