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How to heal a broken heart 💔

I was married with 3 kids for 6 years to my ex husband. Together for 14 years. I was unhappy for many many years but tried to make it work. In april i decided i couldnt do it any longer and ended it with him. I immediately met a woman and we fell in love instantly, this relationship was complicated because she was also married with 3 kids and living with her husband. Long story short, we got together, she made me feel amazing, my weight dropped, my mental health stable and my confidence was through the roof!
Things took a turn and she decided she needed to put her childrens happiness 1st (obviously) and for the kids to be happy she needed to stay living with her husband (the kids dad) this then brought us to an end because i have doubts about her, i had a gut feeling she was still with him behind closed doors but telling me different.
I feel like my world has been turned upside down and i feel totally lost without her. I see her daily because of the school run which makes it even harder.
Ive asked if we could talk about things so there is no bad blood between us but her response was that she needed time to "get over me" and its best she keeps her distance.
This is a love i have never ever felt before and it hurts so bad.
Went through something similar years ago, my advice, create distractions for yourself, get rid of everything she ever gave you, cry as much needed, scream, get it all out, I eventually started feeling better after 6 months… I wish I never met him but I believe it’s made me a stronger person.. best wishes
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@Somewhereovertherainbow im sorry you went through that but glad to hear you healed over time. Thank you for your message ❤️
@Sar1991 you’re welcome 😊
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I have been in a situation where someone I thought I was close with abruptly decided that our relationship was not healthy and immediately cut off all contact.

I have no great words of advice, but I can share my own experience.

One, it took about a year and a half for the pain to go away.
Two, I came to realize that in fact she was right -- it had not been healthy.
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@DrWatson im sorry to hear this. It is the hardest. A year and a half?! 😔 thats a long bloody time to be hurting. Did you do anything for the "healing process"
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@Sar1991 Talking with friends helped me to put things in perspective.
workathome · 51-55, M
That's so sad, but at least you are free to do what you want with who you want now.

I recommend joining a dating website and looking for someone like minded who is also free to do what they want
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@workathome i know what your saying but my god its hard because all i want is her.
She changed me (for the good) as a person. We did so many amazing things together.
workathome · 51-55, M
@Sar1991 I understand, but if she doesn't want you enough to leave her hubby then you have a new life to start working on, right?
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@workathome i suppose your right. But i cant even bare the thought of being with somebody else. 😕
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Been there...done that. She ended it abruptly and never talked to me about it again. Had to see her everyday at work...was and still hard....think of her often but for my own happiness I stopped trying to talk with her after 1 1/2yrs...just moved on.
That’s tough. Stages of grief suck. Time is the only thing. Sorry.
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@DarkHeaven thank you ❤️
@Sar1991 yw 🖤
@Sar1991 it’s a journey, but please know that she won’t be the only one.

Someday… when you’re ready.

https://similarworlds.com/attraction/lesbian/3761800-My-journey-has-been-long-unclear-and-often-very
SW-User
Time heals ..give it as much time as you need . Then when you're ready you will be able to let new love in . Take your time doing so .
Sjones13 · 41-45, M
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
Karma.

She was right in putting her kids first.
Sar1991 · 31-35, F
@GeistInTheMachine karma for what? Because i wasnt happy in my marriage and i done the right thing for MY children. Please dont judge

 
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