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Am I being too mean?

Trigger warning: I will talk about eating disorders. If this is a topic that easily triggers you, please turn away from this post!!
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I have a few friends who found out about my eating disorders and now they’re constantly trying to make me eat. if I decline their food they’ll say something along the lines of “It’ll make me uncomfortable if you don’t eat”. Also since I don’t bring lunch they make me eat with them BUT I CANTTT. They literally won’t give up even if I cry about it (speaking from experience)

They’re just trying to look after me and all that but idk its kinda upsetting. I’m not at the stage of accepting recovery so I don’t want their help, but I feel bad because they genuinely care. I just don’t want to entangle them in my business because this is very personal to me. If I ever choose that “Ayo I want to stop this” then I’ll do that on my own. I don’t need them to babysit me.

Yet at the same time I get it. Because if something happened to me, they’d feel guilty for not doing anything about it.

UGHHHH IM HAVING AN INTERNAL CONFLICT
Long story short, I’m confused af. I do love my friends and therefore I can’t bring myself to tell them about this because I feel kinda mean tbh
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Sit them down and explain that while you understand and appreciate their concern... their approach isn't helpful to you at the stage you are at right now.

If you say nothing and let this drag out, there's a chance that it could set you back further from the stage that you are currently at and make you worse still.

My own recovery hasn't been the easiest - and I've had to ask certain people to not make a scene around my diet or lack thereof because it was sapping the little enthusiasm I had to eat anything at all.

While I'm still not eating a balanced diet, I have managed to increase the quantity of meals and foods that I do eat... the rest will have to wait until I get away from here.