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Friendship Breakup

I am currently going through a friendship breakup. We’re both 26 and have been close since we were 19. This friendship has been the closest and most difficult one throughout the years. We know each others family, have been there for each other through hard life situations, boys, and pretty much everything. We have had our fights before.The last year has been the most difficult. I have never judged her and she was welcome to tell me anything she wanted. In the last year I found out she was having an affair with her boss who is married and has 3 young kids. She works with both him and his wife. She most definitely knows his kids too and has gotten to the point of picking them up if they need a ride etc. all while having this affair. Then she got pregnant. Her affair weighed super heavy on me. Only because I kept asking myself how she was able to face his wife and his children knowing she was having an affair with him. It hurts me that they are both hurting his wife and kids. She never listened to my advice of not pursuing this man. After this it became hard to trust her. I noticed more things, how she would talk shit about everyone, including her other friends. She would body shame other women, make really rude comments and say it’s a joke. Around a month ago, she tried involving me in her drama and I was not having it. So I went no contact. Have not spoken since. My life has been much more peaceful. Regardless of everything, I can’t help but miss the good parts of this friendship. If I could go back to 19, those were my happiest times for this friendship..
deadgerbil · 26-30
Losing close friends always sucks
Nanori · F
@deadgerbil aye girl
WhateverWorks · 36-40
It’s hard to let long-term friendships go, but this person sounds like they’re choosing to become shady and rationalizing those destructive actions with a superiority complex about other women. It’s a bad road. They often inevitably stab their friends in the back. You’re wise to put distance there.
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
Believe me, I've been there. I also had a close friend I met back when I was in college and sadly, we grew apart after nearly 10 years of friendship. Just remember that whenever one door closes, another one will open.
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
That’s a hard loss, yet she’s the one that made the choices even given the common sense you’ve pointed out.
MichaelZ · 31-35, M
Have nothing to do with this woman, please cut ties with her immediately
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
Leave her come back to you if she changes . Leave that possibility. No one's perfect.
I know it's a hard one , but your friend seems very unwell , and if you close the friendship completely on her , and her being unwell , a possibility of her being unwell and maybe takes her own life , you'll have a lot more to deal with in just loosing a friendship . You'll have no peace for the rest of your life .
I know an affair is wrong .
JPWhoo · 36-40, M
It sounds like you did the smart thing by blocking her, she apparently became toxic.
SW-User
I have been through this before and it feels like a piece was taken from you
My life has been much more peaceful.

INR,

Sometimes you just have to 86 the drama......
SW-User
People can grow together and people can grow apart. Sometimes someone just takes a different direction to you and you don't really notice it until your respective paths widen sufficiently. It's sad but it happens. Who someone once was will not always be who they remain and at that point you need to decide whether you still have anything in common. The past is great for memories but useless for moving forward except in learning lessons.
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