Family Based Holidays

I just got invited to my friend's thanksgiving only because I said I hadn't done actual thanksgiving in 5 years. Simply because I've always worked during that time to forget that it is a holiday. I'm really appreciative of the offer, and I am going. but I'm now feeling like I'm intruding on a family even that isn't mine, Their family is really lovely, and I know that they are very welcoming. I just feel like its pitty on me. family oriented holidays always suck for me and I'm really trying to put a happy face on cuz I'm finally able to celebrate but it is unfortunate that it isn't with my own family. It kinda just sucks that I have to depend on my friend's family for this kind of stuff.

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Grateful4you · M

PLEASE you are doing them a favor, they sincerely want to do something kind. Allow them this happiness. It's MUCH harder to be a gracious accepter than a gracious giver. I speak from decades of experience. Pity isn't a factor here. Now pay attention bud and just go and enjoy the day. Feel GREAT knowing you allowed them to also feel just as GREAT!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yeah, I did this once and I regretted it then and I still regret it now. As nice and welcoming as everyone was, I did intrude on their family traditions and when I wasn't feeling like an intruder, I felt like a seasonal prop they could point to at how they had taken in someone to show their holiday spirit.

I don't blame them; again they were nice and did nothing wrong or malicious to indicate they didn't want me there. It's just that I didn't belong there then and the memory of it confirms still I was in the wrong place. The worst part is it was an overnight trip and it was 2 days of horror.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It does kinda suck, but families can include someone in their joy. Go with that attitude.

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