Hi - It all sounds nice hearing from him again , but after reading your post id stay well clear of him .
In my case ill go back to myself . I was dating this woman for 4 years and she left me in the worst way possible , i was at my lowest when she left me . I was after getting harassed in a job by this man and then after being harassed i found out later after dating this woman 4 years , she done the dirt on me , with a person i was helping out . This person got me a job who she done the dirt on .
Your talking about emotional neglect. I KNEW SHE WAS DOING THE DIRT ON ME FOR THE BEST PART OF YEAR and i still stayed with her and she thought that i didn't know but i did . I flew half way across the world with her cause she wanted to try sort it out . She decided we go away abroad but her doing the dirt on me was still in my head when got abroad . So i questioned her over there about and she denied it . Half way across the world i was , going away from home for a year .
It lasted 5 days . I came back , lost 3500 grand over there , paid 800 for her flight back and 800 for my flight back . That was mid march - mid april . I Stayed with her for another 8 months after that until it got too toxic .
Will i tell you the good part .
After the break up ,3 months later i was going through emotional wthdrawl from the toxix relationship that i was in for 4 years , i ended up in a pysche ward 3 times in one year , at one stage i was in there 6 weeks .
There was good times in that relationship also , but i was going tnrough a constant nervous breakdown for a full year and half after we broke up .
After that when you start too feel good , thinking of the good times in relationships, in a subtle way you be thinking , that it was nt too bad and you'd end up wanting her again, but i akways think back to the pysche ward and the year and a half of utter pain afterwards .
See she was 19 and i was 25 there was a 6 year gap between us and i hold no grudges against her cause at that age she was she was only begining with life and everything passes .
Im single 13 years since and even with pain i go tbrough being on my own it's hell of lot better than being in a relationship.
It's nice when relationships are going well , that's lovely but i got too much of a fright from the last relationship i was in and im afraid to go back into another one cause i don't think i could go through the pain of that again .Suicidal for a year and half and i mean suicidal.
I hope you might get something from what i posted . All it is , is my experience, you might be able too deal with it better than i did
