Do you believe everything happens FOR us, not TO us?

I do enjoy that perspective and quote that I have seen a few times. But one thing I truly GRAPPLE with, is how can
we /I consider daily, awful, horrendous and torturous abuse as something that is FOR us?

I am loving and giving and very intuitive most likely due to the inhuman life I had for decades. I do see how trauma can make one very empathic years later. But aside from that my life was ruined. My Self disintegrated. Feeling small, unworthy and as if I have no right to love. Severe anxiety issues and PTSD that makes me not trust people
and doubt myself too. I can't see how abuse could truly be for us. 😢

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JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

The only benefit might be to make you more wary and tougher.

A weak mouse in the open could be pounced on by a cat more easily. So if strength and wariness is genetic, the world will select for that. And then cats are selected to be better hunters. A never ending race. But if cats eat all the mice, both die out. Yet hungry cats won't make it, and enough mice evade cats, so things are in balance.

So sorry cats made you suffer.

Perhaps the only remedy is a guard dog to keep the cats at bay? Or better yet, owners should keep their cats well fed.