What does it mean to "sexualize" someone

I was told that cause I accidentally called a 17 year old woman that she is hot, which I mostly did just to be nice
that I was "sexualizing" a child. I barely looked at her pics and we have talked since I apologized to her for any discomfort I caused her and we are cool. I'd definitely wasn't burning in my lust.

I just want to know what that means cause basically I was just trying to tell her she's not ugly.

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awildsheepschase

There are probably other words to use if you barely know someone and you question her age. But I also think, for good reasons, at times we are hypervigilant and all that should matter is that you found understanding since. Words can be judged so much now.

Perry1968 · M

Its a scary world now. I dont condone remarks that are harsh and/or perverse. But wow ive broke my nose 8 times this month on lampposts by not looking at anyone due to the bin liner i now use to walk the streets.

Matt85 · 36-40, M

@Perry1968 how the hell have you walked into lamposts eight times? i would get some glasses.

Perry1968 · M

@Matt85 No. The black trash bag goes on my head so im not accused of looking at someone. 😆

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

Choosing to refer to a teenager as hot was an odd choice of accidental adjectives for sure. Definitely need to be careful with that wording or you're going to find people acting a bit unsettled around you.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

Did you know she was 17?

Matt85 · 36-40, M

@GeistInTheMachine No. This is why I said it out in the open, where everyone can see.

nonsensiclesnail · F

lol, next time jsut tell them they are not ugly so they can be offended by that instead.

Zonuss · 46-50, M

It means to view them as a sexual object.

SlippingAway · 46-50, F

@Zonuss This is what I would say too.

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