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Ive been feeling so on edge lately

Like my anxiety is through the roof. My mind feels like its being split apart from stressing about finances and rising costs ontop of that, takimg care of a newborn that seems to hate sleeping and wrestling with trying to be a good mom and make the best choices, researching how to help her sleep and why is she doing this and that and getting contradicting advice and judgement and my husband burnt out from work coming home wanted to relax but baby is crying and i need him to hold her so i can finally do laundry, take a shower, eat, cook, clean, nap, and not have a screaming baby because i put her down and not be scrutinised for not putting her down or doing it wrong or being told it was easier for them or they had it worse than me. Told to ask for help then told they didnt have any help in a way like im incapable for asking or theyre a better mom than me.

Its intense and im tired and moms dont get enough credit. I see that now
DarkSideoftheMoon
31-35, F
30 replies 86 views Oct 9, 2022
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SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
moms dont get enough credit.
I beg to differ, Missy. Mother gets majority of the credit because she deserves it. Taking care of a baby while looking after the house isn't an easy task. I'll speak for myself, I can only do one thing at a time but women are good multitasking. There's no denying to that.

My suggestion to you is practice some meditation and yoga while the baby is asleep. It should help you. Good Luck!😇👍

You're doing good because only a concerned Mother and Wife worries a lot about her kid and husband. God bless you...🙏
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SStarfish ·
I was sitting my brothers baby once during his screaming crying days .. i couldn't take it .. so i hear ya.. i stress about finances too cause my hub always be trying to spend money on bs .. 😳 I hope you get a break and some rest.. maybe get one of those baby swing things.. babies like those? Sigh
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@SStarfish yeah shes colic so it sucks but shes suppose to grow out of it. Thank god
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BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP
There's almost no way that any of my former crushes are bad moms because like no joke but that nurturing instinct is part of what attracts my attention in the first place.

I really don't doubt you can do it. But It is tough.
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Justafantasy · M
Takes awhile to get caught up on rest. When baby naps you should to, the world isn't going to end if that other stuff has to wait an hour or two.
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Pretzel · 61-69, M
the first few months are soooo dramatic

just make sure you sleep every time he sleeps - you have to care for the carer
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MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
Awww, hang in there. I wish you had someone near that could.give you a little break.
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@MyNameIsHurl i think thats what makes it so hard, i dont have anyone its just us 2
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SW-User
@DarkSideoftheMoon that’s such a hard haul
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DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Tough times :). Don’t fault yourself. Get lots of fresh air 🌳
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@DownTheStreet i took her in the carrier today for a walk and it was nice ❤️
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DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
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YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
Sounds like colic baby. Good luck and God speed 🕯️
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@YMITheWayIM yeah i think so too. Been on facebook mom groups and talking to midwives and the doctor trying to sort it out. Shes 8 weeks old
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YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
@DarkSideoftheMoon my first kid was like that
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black4white · 56-60, M
I definitely been in your shoes.... check your PM as i went into a bit more detail
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SW-User
Some babies sleep through the night and some are terrible sleepers at first. It has nothing to do with your ability as a mother and anyone who thinks that they cracked it and found the perfect recipe for baby sleep is kidding themselves and lying to you.
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@SW-User it just hurts my heart to see her suffer. I know she is tired but struggles to sleep. My motherinlaw said i should let her cry it out but shes too little for that. I read if u let them do that too early they will stop crying but only because they give up because they realise noone will come for them and it could cause problems later in life. Maybe a sense of feeling alone all the time as an adult. I just want to do my best for her. I guess if i just dumped her in a corner shed eventually stop crying but i dont have it in my heart to do that
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@DarkSideoftheMoon I'm with you on that one. The idea of letting them cry it out is quite an old fashioned one. My parents' generation would have said the same. I'd prefer to offer comfort and reassurance, even if it doesn't seem like it's working at times. I think it will pay dividends in the long run. The idea that a baby will learn to cry simply for attention is a moot point because they'll do that whatever you do.
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@SW-User research has shown that babies dont get manipulative until 9 months i believe so before that they cry because they need u even if its for comfort but i know it was different back then and they didnt know what we know now. I think its possibly a contributing factor to maybe why we feel so alone sometimes and depressed.
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Bang5luts · M
She is connected with you. Truly. Try to research why's to calm yourself. Meditation, relaxation techniques, calming music etc.
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@Starsandfire yeah actually the doctor suggested trying a lactose free formula and thats helped a lot. Shes just so fussy, i think it could also just be her personality but shes very fussy, she wants to be held all the time. I can put her down in her playpen for 20 minutes sometimes but thats about it and luckily shes been sleeping longer at night but only because i think shes crashing from refusing to nap all day. She does contact nap but not for long.
Its also the struggle to have her sleep in her bed so we dont bedshare and thats a controversial topic in itself. When your 8 week old wont sleep in their crib and only wants to contact sleep and your dozing off it gets really stressful especially all the stuff they tell you about sids and suffocation.
I honestly cant wait for her to be 3 months already so i can sleep train her
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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
@Darksideinthenight2 they say you shouldnt until theyre a few months old and then you check on them every 5 or 10 mins but the first few months you have to sooth them everytime. Its that old school vs new school thing i think
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