Maybe it’s all the tree spermies in the air, but some of you dudes are on another level right now.

I’ve blocked…what…three of you lately because the constant profile viewing has made me pause too long. Pause long enough that I didn’t like the vibe I was left feeling.

I have to admit that I took my time blocking one because he had a textbook AI profile picture that displayed him having salt and pepper in his beard…my kryptonite apparently.

However, I didn’t take much time at all blocking the one who had a profile picture so small I think it was taken with a flip phone from the early 2000’s. No hate. Just had an entrepreneur who lives in a trailer park vibe. Felt like I’d catch an STD through his intense glaring alone, so nah.


But here’s the deal. If you lead with “I’m here to make friends with women” (which in itself is so damn comical that it’s off putting by itself) and your forums are grossly singular in their interests, you and I are not going to vibe well together. I don’t care what profile picture I choose to lead with that week, the fact that I’m not sexually or romantically involved with another, or that I get my very human “😏” moments, I am so not your intended audience…and you most definitely are not mine. There’s no need to keep coming back to my profile every hour thinking it will secretly lure me to you, like sensing someone is staring at you and your eyes searching to find them. That’s not going to happen here.

Now. If I know you, whatever that definition is in this realm, you’re completely excluded from this. You make me smile. Always. You’re here for a reason. Even if I don’t know you and you possess restraint in the viewing category, the smile comes. But you all know there’s that other group that brings this kind of eerie aura because you’ve never seen them anywhere …until you see them everywhere. It’s unsettling and I’m over feeling that way in my life, in any aspect I can have at least a little say in.

I have nothing against that group of men you’ve chosen to belong to, but my actions in regards to yours? I’m saving us both time and energy, not that I’d give you either of those to begin with. …that sounded way harsher than I meant it to, but we each decide how we want to move in this life, and on here. And it’s clear that your movement does not coincide in mine. Having that clarity and access to a “not today satan” button makes for clear skies and breaths after the heaviest of storms, and in 2026 I’m all about those sunny skies 😌