Every time you agree to something you don't want in your life, a piece of you slips away. It's like giving up a fragment of your soul, a tiny shard of your true self. You lose a little more of who you're meant to be.
You weren't made to turn against yourself. You weren't designed to sacrifice your own desires, dreams, and well-being for the sake of others or to fit into someone else's mold. Yet, so often, you find yourself compromising, saying yes when you mean no, and nodding along to things that don't align with your values. I quit that years ago and it's a very freeing!
Hopefully, you've come to realize that every time you betray your own truth, you lose a piece of yourself. You chip away at your spirit, your confidence, and your sense of self. It feels like you lose a piece of your soul! Meaning, the damage goes far beyond the surface level. It's a powerful reminder of the importance of prioritizing one's own well-being and setting healthy boundaries. The experience can chip away at the soul, leaving the victim feeling fragmented and disconnected from their own needs and desires. You become a shadow of who you were or could be... a faint echo of your true potential.
The real danger is, you'll start to lose a little bit of love and respect for yourself. Self-esteem. That's What I call "losing yourself." Been there, done that. This ushers in the bad habit of people pleasing. Then before you even know what's happening, you've fallen into codependency because you've lost who you are. You've completely abandoned the person you need the most --- You! You've given yourself up without even a fight, and not only that, the person you gave your power to, will lose complete respect for you. And sadly, so will you.
Be brave enough to say no to what doesn't serve you. Be strong enough to prioritize your own needs and desires. Be you, unapologetically and authentically, without apology or pretension.
Make a pact to be kind to yourself, to listen to your inner voice, and to stand up for what you truly believe in. Choose to honor your own truth and to live your life with purpose and intention.
As I look back on my own journey, I want to encourage you to prioritize your own truth and live authentically. We only get one shot at life and I don't want to see you lose the wonderful experience of You! Life is just too short to cater to other people.
Choose your boundaries and stick with them, no matter what. You teach people how you wish to be treated. That's why we call our life personal. You are a person and you deserve to be treated like one. YOU determine your worth... not the other way around. You need to honor yourself and your own boundaries. Otherwise, your life will continue to be miserable, confusing, and very unstable. This is what brings on depression, anxiety, and self-loathing.
Your life is meant to be lived by you, and you need to realize that people who do not honor you in these ways, are toxic and should be completely ignored. Never let them get a foot in the door. Don't let anyone tag you as "easy". Please be true to yourself. Take a cue from those who confidently set boundaries and prioritize their own needs. Your whole life will change, and you'll be glad you did.
As we grow older, if we haven't healed from the initial abuse, we will attract people and situations that resemble the initial abusive behavior. We will be drawn to people and situations that resemble what we've become accustomed to. That cycle must be broken, and therapy is needed. Reprogramming is needed.
I challenge you to do the same as I did. When you take back your power, you take back your life...plain and simple. Never listen to anyone who says you're not pretty or smart enough.That should set off a hundred red flags in your head, that they are toxic, so stay away. Don't walk away. Run!!
Never settle for less. Everyone deserves to be happy and enjoy life. Isn’t it time you let that be you? Don't allow abuse to steal more of your life. Many abusive partners try to blame shift and minimize their abusive actions. Don’t let anyone trample on you and ride roughshod over you. Don’t cower in fear. Fight for your freedom.
