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Rigidity and control

I've noticed that people who have a lot of rules, opinions and expectations of how things should be are often quite fragile. They cannot bend without breaking. They use a multitude of mind games to stay in control, and their world temporarily comes crashing down if someone doesn't follow their rules.

I think it's their way of avoiding the tender pieces of themselves that make them feel vulnerable. Being vulnerable is scary, I can agree to that. But some take it too far. Something tells them their way of dealing with life is superior and they bully everyone who will let them to uphold the narrative that they are in control.

It's like blinders on a horse.

It's boring and suffocating.

It's deceptive, manipulative and crap.

There are other ways, other paths, a million options and choices to make with unforeseeable outcomes. That's living.
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twistedrope · 26-30, M
I think the alternative would be accepting someone for who they are. Accepting someone for who they are would take too much time and energy. For me and others who do, we're so practiced, its as easy as breathing.
@twistedrope yup. It seems silly to me all the rules, but they are twisted and reaching for control they don't deserve or have privilege to. Control that nobody gets. It's so draining and boring.