Went to my great aunts funeral yesterday
Went with my oldest sister (R) and our mom.
First thing that happened when we got to the church was gmaws youngest sister (A) trash talking gmaw for not showing up for the funeral (there were plenty of reasons why she couldn't make it, but A wouldn't listen.
When we entered the church, one of moms cousins / the deceaseds nephew insisted on sitting with us. He kept talking, swearing and even laughing out loud (so loud everyone could hear, even the priest) throughout the ceremony. No amount of shushing him helped.
There were also 2 grandkids of the deceased who kept yelling, stomping around, and making a scene. Normally I wouldn't complain about small kids as they don't understand what's going on, but there kids were too old to not understand AND the parents didn't make any effort to stop them.
At the gravesite, the older of the kids even had to hold on to his younger brother to stop him from falling into the open grave. The parents did nothing to stop it. The kids even ran around pretending to shoot one nad other with finger guns, and pretending to die.
Again, parents did nothing to stop them.
Also, during the moment of silence, mom decided to talk to one of the surviving sisters (one of her aunts), and they did NOT keep the volume down what so ever.
So many people were incredibly disrespectful throughout the day ment to pay our last respects to a wonderful woman.
(In case anyone's wondering: gmaws health has kept her from attending the funerals of 3 of her 4 deceased sisters. She can barely get out of the house on a good day when it's summer. It's frozen and slippery outside these days, and gmaw struggles to walk because her feet are so ruined, so if she tried leaving the house we're pretty sure we'd have to plan her funeral the next day.
Also, her dementia is so bad that when her siblings came to visit so they could plan the funeral for "auntie" M last week, gmaw kept asking where M was, because she didn't even remember she had passed away)
First thing that happened when we got to the church was gmaws youngest sister (A) trash talking gmaw for not showing up for the funeral (there were plenty of reasons why she couldn't make it, but A wouldn't listen.
When we entered the church, one of moms cousins / the deceaseds nephew insisted on sitting with us. He kept talking, swearing and even laughing out loud (so loud everyone could hear, even the priest) throughout the ceremony. No amount of shushing him helped.
There were also 2 grandkids of the deceased who kept yelling, stomping around, and making a scene. Normally I wouldn't complain about small kids as they don't understand what's going on, but there kids were too old to not understand AND the parents didn't make any effort to stop them.
At the gravesite, the older of the kids even had to hold on to his younger brother to stop him from falling into the open grave. The parents did nothing to stop it. The kids even ran around pretending to shoot one nad other with finger guns, and pretending to die.
Again, parents did nothing to stop them.
Also, during the moment of silence, mom decided to talk to one of the surviving sisters (one of her aunts), and they did NOT keep the volume down what so ever.
So many people were incredibly disrespectful throughout the day ment to pay our last respects to a wonderful woman.
(In case anyone's wondering: gmaws health has kept her from attending the funerals of 3 of her 4 deceased sisters. She can barely get out of the house on a good day when it's summer. It's frozen and slippery outside these days, and gmaw struggles to walk because her feet are so ruined, so if she tried leaving the house we're pretty sure we'd have to plan her funeral the next day.
Also, her dementia is so bad that when her siblings came to visit so they could plan the funeral for "auntie" M last week, gmaw kept asking where M was, because she didn't even remember she had passed away)
36-40, T
