I should be happy my husband died quickly??? He may have suffered longer had he lived.

Opinions such as this are intolerable, insensitive, and cruel
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How about if I wished he didn't die at all?
Didn't suffer at all?
How in the world can people think anyone who says that their loved one died too quickly could ever feel they wanted them to suffer short or long time?
And they should be happy about their death?

Please do not come on here and argue with me.
I'm in more than enough pain already.... Anybody trying to convince me it was a great thing my husband died is just going to be deleted and if they persist they will be blocked.

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

I know that this is a horrible, just about unbearable time. Made even worse by the stupid things people say. The only things I found somewhat helpful were grief support groups, one through an organization called GriefShare, another through a local hospital. And a Facebook group I joined for widows and widowers. I just felt compelled to connect with people who knew exactly what I was going through. Talking about it with anyone else, even the most well meaning, usually felt like nails on a chalkboard.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@OlderSometimesWiser
Silence is better than just spouting off.
Thanks glad that was helpful for you.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Justmeraeagain Forgive me if I say too much. I just feel so badly for you and my instinct is to want to help, even knowing that the pain you’re experiencing could never be alleviated by the words of some person on the internet. I’ll try to be more mindful of that moving forward.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@OlderSometimesWiser I have not found anything you said offensive