Unexpected Loss

I have no explanation about why no one reached out to you about her illness but I can say this -

Usually when we lose someone important, we always feel like we should have spent more time, should have called more, etc.

No matter how much we kept in touch, we always feel like we could have talked more. We should have done this or that.

The worst part of the feeling, we seldom remember what we were even doing when we were telling ourselves, "Oh maybe later."

What you are feeling is completely normal.

The best we can do in life is to make sure each interaction with a loved one ends on a positive note. It doesn't have to be something worthy of a Hallmark card, just make sure to resolve differences quickly.

So with your friend, your last interaction was a positive one. Be thankful for that.

Some people have to live with the guilt that their last interaction with someone was an argument.

You received what you gave to her... you didn't reach out to her because you had a lot going on in your life, then as the universe would keep it in balance, no one subsequently reached out to you to let you know she was sick.

What you experienced is how the universe works all the time and the lesson to learn here is, you can't have it both ways.

If you don't put out, you will not receive either.

God bless her soul. 🙏

Maybe she had a short and sudden illness followed by a rapid death???

There might not have been time to tell anyone that she was sick...