Unexpected Loss

There was a woman who was a minister, spiritual advisor- whom I had known for over 12yrs, I just found out today that she passed in the end of March but what triggered me to call her was a dream I had about her last night.
Life is lifing and the last text I sent her was last Mothers Day in which she responded. I feel guilty I didn't reach out a such but I had a lot going on in my life. I really hate the way this feels. Noone reached out to let me know she was sick.

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HoeBag · 46-50, F

I have no explanation about why no one reached out to you about her illness but I can say this -

Usually when we lose someone important, we always feel like we should have spent more time, should have called more, etc.

No matter how much we kept in touch, we always feel like we could have talked more. We should have done this or that.

The worst part of the feeling, we seldom remember what we were even doing when we were telling ourselves, "Oh maybe later."

What you are feeling is completely normal.

The best we can do in life is to make sure each interaction with a loved one ends on a positive note. It doesn't have to be something worthy of a Hallmark card, just make sure to resolve differences quickly.

So with your friend, your last interaction was a positive one. Be thankful for that.

Some people have to live with the guilt that their last interaction with someone was an argument.

BeautifulLibra · 46-50, F

@HoeBag Thankyou very much. I needed to hear that although I did leave a voicemail and didn't get a return call--not sure when- I'm trying not to read into that too much because so much could play into that, reception etc. I still have the Mothers Day text from last year, if she was alive today I would've sent another one this year.

swirlie · 31-35

You received what you gave to her... you didn't reach out to her because you had a lot going on in your life, then as the universe would keep it in balance, no one subsequently reached out to you to let you know she was sick.

What you experienced is how the universe works all the time and the lesson to learn here is, you can't have it both ways.

If you don't put out, you will not receive either.

BeautifulLibra · 46-50, F

@swirlie Thanks for your reply

Nick1 · 61-69, M

God bless her soul. 🙏

HootyTheNightOwl · 41-45

Maybe she had a short and sudden illness followed by a rapid death???

There might not have been time to tell anyone that she was sick...

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