The way some people have it

The way some people have parents, alive.

Grandparents, even.

Some even have a solid pair of parents, and grandparents on both their moms side and dads side.

The way life goes..

People like that ask you, "how are you?", at a funeral.

They ask in general.

Because they don't know.

How lucky to not know.

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Gibbon · 70-79, M

I couldn't be at Vickies funeral but her daughter shared enough to make me feel I was.

To the question I simply lie and say I'm fine all things considered.

The truth is "Of course I'm not OK. What the hell is wrong with you. I lost the best relationship I ever had and there's a gigantic hole in my soul"

It's not worth answering truthfully because if they asking that soon they haven't a effing clue. To say they mean well doesn't help.
The pain may subside but remains forever.

HellsBelle · 36-40, F

@Gibbon I had to do a double take. My moms name is Vickie and I am her daughter of course, how odd.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

@HellsBelle Sorry hope I didn't trigger anything. I wrote my profile specifically for those that didn't know her on EP or her short stay here. But I've learned few here read profiles and even more add nothing of value to theirs.
Vickies daughter feels like the only family I have in the world because she appreciates how her moms final years with me were the happiest in her life and mine with her. We both had that rarest of relationships few ever find.