After they have gone.....

Nope.
I remember them when i remember them ...its organic 🤷‍♀

I'm the same as Oogie except for one mate who died on another mates birthday so it's kinda impossible not to think of him on her birthday.

I always remember my bros that are gone, throughout the year. Some of their birthdays I don't remember but they are never forgotten. I will usually poor a drink on the day of their death and light a candle if I have one.

To my brother and my mum I raise a glass to them both and light candles on their birthdays.💚

I do not "celebrate" the birthdays of those loved ones that have left me but to those that very close, like family members, I place a flower next to their picture so as never to forget them.

I do the same for their death day but in addition, I silently thank them for what they have done for me while they were alive.

Yahrzeit candle is lit on each of those days.

No, because they cease to have birthdays. Finito.

I may happen to notice it or acknowledge it in my mind (if I remember it) on that specific day, but that is it.

No but I always remember my parents birthdays. The date is the same and one month apart.

Both — if i cared for them, neither — if i didn't.

I have a beer on my brothers birthday.

I do on my heart.

I think both?

Yes Mourne

I do both actually. I even buy flowers for my coffee table on each occasion.