Stop bringing me food!! I’m grieving, not anorexic!

Ever since my grandpa died Last Tuesday, I’ve been getting phone calls, people have been coming over which I do appreciate and some people been giving me food. I mean I appreciate it but I wish they would stop! I don’t understand why people bring food when someone dies? It’s not like I’m going to be anorexic. My cousin asked me a rude question “How much do you weigh now?” Really that’s a rude question to ask.
I need to be alone, people won’t stop coming and vet and I need to be alone to grieve and I don’t wanna eat. I’ve been getting rude comments on here that I’m not appreciative. I am it’s just that I need space.

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LeopoldBloom · M

It’s a custom based on the assumption that a grieving person won’t feel like shopping and cooking. I’m surprised your family is doing it as I associate it more with Jewish people “sitting shiva” where they spend a week not doing anything, and other people bring food.

My condolences on your grandfather’s passing. Everyone grieves in a different way and if you want to be left alone, just tell people who come over that you don’t feel like socializing and ask them to leave you alone for a while.

PepsiColaP

Sorry for your loss 😔 as for people bringing food,try to see it as a gesture of sympathy , not so much a patronising act towards you and your grieving process, but rather them saying 'hey I know it may be hard to take care of yourself now so I hope this makes it somewhat easier'.

MrAverage1965 · 61-69, M

We all grieve in our own way and it can be a lengthy process.
Maybe you need to be open with the people who visit.
Thank them for visiting, tell than that's is appreciated but that you really need some time alone right now.

CactusJackManson · M

When my mom and dad died, I was grateful to those who showed compassion toward me.

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