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Why do you bother to bring flowers and light candles in the cemetery? Do you do it for the living or for the dead?

It's something I am wondering about.
I know it's become tradition, like a means to gather with family and respect the dead.

But the dead are dead. Inside the tombs, they're bones. Inside the urns, they're ashes.

I mean no disrespect. I just genuinely like to understand. Deep down, if there is no one who would see you do it or who would expect you to do it, would you still do it? And why?

Would you do it for the living? For yourself? For the dead? Why?
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mindstruggle · 31-35, F
I tend to the grave site to show I care for my loved one. I don’t forget them. In some way I still grieve, but have turned this grieving into a gift - flowers. Doing that helps me to move on and yet still feel I am showing love and remembrance.

Most people do not want to forget their loved one. Fresh flowers by a grave to me is a sign of respect and remembrance.

I still do it with my Dad. 💐