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Why do you bother to bring flowers and light candles in the cemetery? Do you do it for the living or for the dead?

It's something I am wondering about.
I know it's become tradition, like a means to gather with family and respect the dead.

But the dead are dead. Inside the tombs, they're bones. Inside the urns, they're ashes.

I mean no disrespect. I just genuinely like to understand. Deep down, if there is no one who would see you do it or who would expect you to do it, would you still do it? And why?

Would you do it for the living? For yourself? For the dead? Why?
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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I do it for myself. I love seeing lights. When I was little, I found All Souls' Night very exciting and loved lighting small candles from each other and sticking them in the ground. Now I just bring tea candles to the common memorial for all the deceased that I knew who were not my family. It's a nice, calming ritual.