If your SO died, how deep would be the personal crisis?
Do you know who you are without your spouse? Your identity is tied to it
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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
I would date myself and get to know who I am without him. I don't think I'd have any crisis except the grief itself. It would feel different and empty without him. But I would adapt. I'm not the type who stay miserable. Him however. He has told me if I die before him it will destroy him. He already know he has my permission to be happy no matter if I'm there or not. I don't want him to stop life because I'm gone.
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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Misspotat I guess I haven't made him that big part of my identity. I'm a very independent person who have handled being single for a long time,chosen it myself and ignored all requests. And there's so much more to life that is waiting and I just don't see the point in being miserable because a person is gone. I had to learn early that people will leave sometimes. And either I'm destroyed by it or I live for two.
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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Misspotat I never feel like he completes or anyone completes me. I am complete in myself. So a bit different independency than yours.
To walk empty feels like self torture. For what benefit? His? Yours?
I will always remember him and a part inside will compare all other men I ever meet with him. But it won't stop me from pursuing a happy life.
To walk empty feels like self torture. For what benefit? His? Yours?
I will always remember him and a part inside will compare all other men I ever meet with him. But it won't stop me from pursuing a happy life.