How do you decide when to go to a visitation of someone who passed?

If I knew the deceased directly it’s a little more clear, but when it’s a relative of a friend I haven’t seen in a long time, I don’t wanna be awkward. I loathe visitations bc I almost always stick my foot in my mouth during such sensitive times.

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NativePortlander1970 · 56-60

My mother's mother was known county wide for crashing funerals for the after reception, this was back in the early 80's. I lost track of how many times I'd hear the deceased's family ask who we were and then politely be asked to leave while in line at the potlucks, it was super embarassing as a kid.

The general rule of ettiquite is that unless you knew the deceased personally, do not go.

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NativePortlander1970 · 56-60

@SW-User The worst was when I would get recognized by a classmate.

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NativePortlander1970 · 56-60

@SW-User I don't think she cared, she went to the funerals with her mother for the religious messages, and dragged my older brothers and me along so we could hear them too 🙄

DoubleRings · F

@NativePortlander1970 I’m def not attending the funeral lunch or mass. I may only attend the visitation.