Yeh, I used to do that. It gets piled up and then years later you have a load full you thought was swept under the rug and would stay there. Now you have to face it. It won’t go away until you deal with it.
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@Magenta I guess I felt like I didn’t have time to deal with them... I was too afraid of falling apart ... Thank you, Sounds like a good idea.. I’ll try it . I understand how expressing emotions can have it’s downside . However , I have noticed you always express them so beautifully and at the end of the day , you don’t have any walls in your mind .🙂
Writing in private was very good therapy for me. You can write, cry, and get it all out at the same time, for whichever problem you need to resolve first. Then go to the next. Sure you’ll feel bad at digging up an old hurt, but after you do that, your heart will feel a lot cleaner and relieved. It is your own kind of closure. I’ve even written very emotional letters to those who have hurt me real bad, then didn’t send them, but took them out to the trash barrel, burned them, and watched them rise to God. God makes beauty out of the ashes of our life. Give it up to God. @SW-User
@SW-User Time is NOT the cure. Facing each thing head-on, is. Otherwise, it won’t go away. The lessons are there for a reason...to learn and grow.
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I do see your point.however ,I do need to wait and calm my emotions first. When my emotions are running high it’s hard to make the right decision sometimes 😊
@TexChik That’s another thing I have to work on... I don’t cry ... Have not been able to cry in a long time .. Im just a hot mess 😁😁😁😅😊
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I completely understand..the trouble is I think-that all these years when we thought we were doing well building walls, the emotion was still there...building up until the wall broke down. I don’t know what the answer is-the only thing that keeps me going is that allowing control is normal. Everyone else does it why can’t we? Hope things get easier for you xx
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@SW-User I’m praying that those walls won’t break! Other waist you will probably hear about a brown curly hair crazy woman running on the street on the news !😁 Yes, I know a lot of people do it . I hope things get easier on all of us as we go .. Hugs
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I don't know how the song got on my workout playlist but for some reason it inspires me to break the spell that you're talking about.
It's Florence + The Machine's "Dogs Days Are Over."
I have no clue what the actual of the song is but the constant "dog days are over" and the fact I'm working out do some sort of cleanse.
Only you can break yourself out of that room. You can shine. You can (and will) take control. I know you can ;-)
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@SW-User I have the song on my music list now !👍 I know it’s all up to me to break out of it ! I’ll try ... 🤗🤗
Get out where the skies are big above and look outwards... I find this helpful to disassociate from a tough time or inward moment and gives more wriggle room. Sincerely hope you’re okay 💐
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@yeronlyman Thank you I try to do that but sometimes I just slide down the downward spiral and it takes me time to crawl up again. I’m doing much better . Thanks again Hugs
Physical pain is designed to serve as an early warning of damage - we move further away from the fire. I believe emotional pain was designed to work in a similar way - but unfortunately the required action is not always so easy to take, or even necessarily within our control.
I hope the root causes of these emotions can find some healing, alongside your ability to once again manage those that remain.
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@NudasPriest Thank you.🤗 I realize that dismissing emotion ba won’t make them go away . I am going to use all the advice I got here and help my self heal . I’m a bit nervepus about facing the root causes but I’ll take things one stop at the time...