Do you ever feel so low about your life?

That most people around you are getting jobs, podcasts, going away/traveling, getting a new home, a new puppy, dating, having kids etc.

And what am I doing? Trying to read self help books every week on just how to alter myself, change myself, better myself. (From severe decades of trauma).
Still feeling panicked about dating, about certain jobs, and even about simply meeting up with a friend from many years ago. People say just say to guys, I do have anxiety but I accept myself...but I know they can choose so many others who don't have my issues. And realistically, do I think they'd choose a person with chronic PTSD over a confident woman? No.

It can feel crippling watching everyone around you experience joy, love and life.. while you are stuck for years, drowning.
Have you felt that?

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Nob0dy · 26-30, F

I’ve definitely felt versions of this and I think more people relate than it seems on the surface. It’s easy to look around and feel like everyone else is moving forward while you’re stuck in place, but a lot of what we see especially online is just a highlight reel not the full picture.
Working on yourself is not falling behind. It’s actually one of the hardest and most important things someone can do. Reading, reflecting, trying to heal, those are not small things even if they don’t look as visible as a new job or relationship hey take real effort and courage.
And about dating, someone choosing you is not about being the most perfect or least complicated option the right person is not comparing you like a checklist against others, they’re connecting with you as a whole human being. Having anxiety or a past does not disqualify you from being loved it just means you’re human

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

tHanks so much especially on the last part, because with chronic PTSD, I DON'T feel whole😢But you're right, having anxiety means I'm human. Ty again🌹 @Nob0dy @Nob0dy