This crisis happens like a season, when life gets mundane and we feel we have no purpose. So it's kinda soul searching as you have achieved / accomplished all your dreams of your teens and feel you have come to a dead end, and each day is just mundane and you also feel outdated since many things have changed around you compared to the time you entered into a wedlock.

So you need to start exploring the outside world and get to know newer people again and the purpose/ activity will reach you. Your untapped talent will emerge to reveal who you are OR who you can make yourself to be. It's like jumping back into the mainstream after many years of living ashore in a house.

yes, this is very common actually! Kids and all--and something else. I just learned all about this. We fall in romantic love, attracted and juicy and hot...then things happen and time passes, and we enter into a period called a power struggle, when we have needs to be met and expect our partner to meet them and they usually can't, and we struggle. Then if we do the work, and it is complicated and difficult but worth it, we can enter into true love. But it takes conscious effort and guidance.

I find myself in a similar "identity crisis". I have no kids instead lots of injuries broken bonesbrain surgery one arm. Also 36 ive had identity crises before and the best thing that helped me was to get more education. At the time i got a new job too. And i started gardening(food). So thats my advice new places new things keep busy and keep family prominent in your life.

I’m not a fan of the term “mid life crisis” just because it implies some sort of inherent timeframe and an inevitability. We can go through crises at any time and for many reasons. It sounds like you’re overwhelmed and somewhat isolated. Have you expressed these concerns and frustrations to your husband? If you haven’t, you should give him a chance to hear you out and respond.

It's just because you're extremely busy, and apparently your husband is also. This will pass, so don't make any rash decisions you will regret later. Now, try to get some alone time with your husband and you will remember why you got married in the first place!

Yep, it’s a sad fact for married women with children. I suggest u take a break and go somewhere alone to figure out what u want to do the rest of ur life.

Sorry to hear/read this. Hope life gets better for you soon!

That all makes sense. I totally get it

You need to figure out who you are

It's not uncommon

Because you feel like a robotic chauffeur?

Yes