So over everything

Im a stay at home mom. I homeschool my two teenagers. A husband that’s practically a stranger honestly we are so different now and I’m not even sure we know each other anymore. But really who am I kidding.. I’m not even sure I know who I am anymore. Appointments several times a week and driving around to extracurricular activities. And I suddenly feel like I’m going through some sort of midlife crisis lol. Is that possible for a 36 year old woman? Because it sure feels like it. I really need to figure out what I need. I guess now that my kids are almost grown it just has me questioning who I am besides “mom”. I don’t know the answer to that.

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Docdon23 · M

yes, this is very common actually! Kids and all--and something else. I just learned all about this. We fall in romantic love, attracted and juicy and hot...then things happen and time passes, and we enter into a period called a power struggle, when we have needs to be met and expect our partner to meet them and they usually can't, and we struggle. Then if we do the work, and it is complicated and difficult but worth it, we can enter into true love. But it takes conscious effort and guidance.

tiltawhirl · 36-40, F

@Docdon23 I’ve been with my husband for 15 years. I believe we’ve hit true love some time ago and now we’ve crashed into a wall.

Docdon23 · M

@tiltawhirl that can also happen--i was at a workshop two weeks ago about this and with a couple who crashed after 30 years--there are skills to learn that can help you.