I never appreciate anything

All my life I’ve never appreciated anything, I always think when I achieve a goal I’ll be happy but turning 40 I’ve found out that it’s a constant cycle in my life and I’m scared.

Most people have always told me to appreciate what I gave and where I am but unfortunately I can’t seem to appreciate anything.

I’m wondering has anyone ever felt like this and how did they have a change of mentality.

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AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

I mean lets call a thing, a thing. If you have gone through life feeling unappreciative of what you have, that makes you selfish. There's no easier way to say it. You will never be happy until you appreciate the benefits of your hard work. Pride is what you are lacking. You need something to feel proud about basically. Its like you are watching everyone around you prosper and have all these things that they are proud of as you sit idle and not show appreciation for what you have. Think of it this way lets say you had a neighbor their apartment was fully furnished, beautiful! Yours had a milk crate table and air mattress. Rather than just being thankful that you even had the apartment you dwell on the furnishings that you dont have and you feel ashamed, embarrased and miserable. Again pride is lacking. You work hard, buy a couch and be proud of it. It gives your life purpose.