He also, okay, I have to admit was pretty intolerant weirdly, like transphobic and conservative, and a little subtly sexist

I don't know why I ignore these things and think it will be okay. But it's good to look at these things because if I'm with someone, I'd like our values to match

In fact, they must.

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SageWanderer · 70-79, M

I think it’s the rose colored glasses syndrome; one looks for the positives in a new relationships. It’s only when you step away one sees the negatives and red flags. Set your priorities, keep to your values and do not settle for less.