I’ve no idea what I’m supposed to be doing with the second half of my life.

Im a guy in his early forties. I’m happily married. I don’t have children - my wife didn’t want any. I have an okay job and I own a modest home.

I used to have the best time with my friends. Three or four times a year the five of us would meet up in a nearby city, have a big meal, go to a casino and then party into the early hours if the next day. Big hangovers but great memories and humour. But as time goes in they’re drifting away, and too busy to catch up. I think those good times have slipped away for good.

I have no idea what to do to have fun and give myself something to look forward to. I can’t just sit in front of a tv, or do DIY, or play golf like other guys my age. I need something to do that gets me excited and gives me something to look forward to, and I’ve no idea where to go for that. I’m totally adrift.

Does this resonate with anyone? What did you do?

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hartfire

Examine your values.
What changes would you like to see in the world?
In what ways could you use you skills, talents and experience in a job which would contribute to making that difference?

Experiment with new hobbies, preferably creative ones, or maybe a sport - they're a great way to meet new people with similar interests.
Start a coffee group where anyone can come and join in for a chat for two or three hours once a week.

Consider reading. One can have an infinite range of vicarious experiences through good novels,
or one can increase one's general knowledge stimulate one's intelligence via non-fiction.

There are many forms of hedonism that don't require drugs and don't cost much - hiking in national parks, cycling, dance, playing music, etc.