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Life Reset? Anyone else having these thoughts?

Has life turned out the way you hoped it would when you still had hopes & dreams? Before life left you broken & jaded?
I'm just now starting a journey to try and "reset" my life.. start something new with new people in a new place, new life as much as possible.
Anyone else feel like they're ready to make BIG changes to your life and start almost all over? Im thinking BLANK slate except for maybe 5% of people you have to have contact with for me thats mainly family. Unfortunately I don't really have any friends. My best friend and pretty much only friend died at the end of June this year unexpectedly. Its brought on a lot of thoughts. I've decided to document it & my life on a social media site- see how far it actually goes, where "life happens" and ultimately do I end up happy & how long I stay in this state. I really want to be in the Midwest or West in a year, unless financial opportunities keep me here. Anyone from those areas and want to share about what its like there? I'm open to pretty much anywhere, my criteria is low cost & hopefully not *really small* lol I've lived in a small town and major cities, right now in the Southeast its kind of a "large city" it'll be a major city soon that I'm in. Large city or a mid sized city is probably my only second criteria.

I wonder how many more times this is going to happen to me as an adult before I'm at least stable & content hopefully somewhat happy..
I never thought I'd be here at this age
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
Several resets, but probably not as big as you are considering. (Most would say that as a fourth-generation Californian ironically now living in the community his great-grandparents immigrated to in the late 1800s that I haven't reset at all!) There have been many resets along the way though: demographically (ranch in the middle of nowhere, rural small town, major urban city, and now suburbia); geographically (Sierra foothills, Central Valley, Bay Area, two years in Europe with the Army), educationally/professionally (sports writer, general reporter, public relations). And the biggest resets of all: single, married with children, empty nester, widowed, partnered again, widowed again. Life is a journey through constant resets.

As far was the West is concerned, any urban settings on the West Coast are not going to meet your low cost criteria, but there are still areas inland that may meet your needs.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
I'm sure there are lots of people assessing and re-assessing where they are and what they're doing and questioning whether or not it's worth it.

I think I always knew I'd be the one taking on caring responsibilities for my parents as my siblings are all wrapped up in their own worlds and would be useless at it anyway.
What I didn't count on was being unwell myself !

So no is the answer. In not where I want to be and now I don't think I ever will be.
As humans we often start with a goal in sight and then adapt to changes that occur as a consequence of life.

Doesn't make you feel any better though
Adrianax · 26-30, F
@Picklebobble2
It isnt a answer with fairy dust but its real. Everyones assessing their lives but I want to take it to the next level where we can try & get a handle on our lives, depression ect & find the joy. It is true we adapt for the circumstances that life throws at us. Plain and simple. I feel like I'm just at a place where I'm ready to start a new; I've only got one life and it feels like I'm missing out or wasting it or just not doing something right. Granted I have truama as almost do & other "life experiences/issues" but I'm the only one that can make the changes to my life to see if perhaps it could maybe be better??

I get what you mean about you parents (probably more than you think) but either with your parents if their able or afterwards maybe you'll be in this place. Deciding what you want to do next, or maybe even doing it on smaller level.
mayguy · 46-50, M
@Adrianax @Picklebobble2
Both of you posted such excellent comments. 👏 Adriana, you're so right in taking responsibility for your life and future actions. Americans are very lucky in that (unlike many other countries) we can *mostly* control our own destiny.

And if you are considered moving to the MW, there is a member here you need to meet. She is *truly* special and I will pm you about her.
i achieved everything I wanted to at an early age

i've overloaded my life several times, but I'm bored with that too

try sky diving...

i had fun with that
but not for long either
Adrianax · 26-30, F
@fakable

Lol, Even the sky diving got boring? 😂 Damn thats a bit worrisome, but logical everything gets boring eventually.. gotta keep finding new things.
@Adrianax
there's still occult practices and total spiritualist destruction of the ego

before the death of the body, this may be useful, but in principle it is not necessary either
SW-User
Yup now that I got certain things I wanted I realized it’s a never ending race and we’re stuck in the matrix
Adrianax · 26-30, F
@SW-User
I think I've heard scientist say theres a 50% chance we ARE in a simulation and if thats true - there literally are no words...
SW-User
@Adrianax quantum physics proves it tbh
KatyO83 · 41-45, F
I've done it at least twice now. Most recently was a rocky road but seems to be leveling out now.
Adrianax · 26-30, F
@KatyO83
I have a feeling its going to be that way for me also, theres so many decisions it gets overwhelming as do the worries among other things..
I'm just curious to see how things settle & if they settle well.
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Life didn't work out how I wanted to no, mostly my fault because I made a lot of mistakes on the way and well that's just how it is. Lots of time and money wasted on people that couldn't care less about me. Live and you learn i guess.
meggie · F
Some of it did, some took time and I have many nice things to look forward to. But it's not been a happy journey getting to where I am today. I appreciate what I have
Constantly adapting, constantly learning. Do you have any idea how many people would love to be in your shoes?
I'm neither stable nor content but my resets never lasted, always down a similar path everyy time
Every so often it's time for me to dump everyone and hit the road. If you want to be used and misused, you'd stay.
mrmagickal · 46-50, M
Sure there are many things I’d like to start fresh .. I wish it was that easy !
I think my last save point is still well past the salvageable point, tho.
Try living in a college town I rather liked that and lots of opportunities
I could go for a blank slate right about now.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Happiness is only but a dream.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Good luck
This last year all I have learnt is to stay quite, do not express my opinion, do not question anyone, avoid everyone and do not approach anyone under any circumstances because I'll just be misunderstood or accused of something I haven't done/said. I was trying to change my compass before last year in an attempt to use sincerity and the truth against those that manipulate and lie for their own benefit.
SW-User
I'm at that point myself. Sometimes you just need to say to hell with it and try again somewhere different, with different people.

My life hasn't gone how I thought it would but that's okay. A wise man once said "we must make the best of what is under our control and take the rest as its nature is". I try to live by that.

Good luck, God bless, may it work out the way you want.
BigGuy2 · 26-30, M
It does happen, i thought i'd be living where i was brought up, but now live 300 miles away
BigGuy2 · 26-30, M
@Adrianax ... you sound a tortured soul, i do hope it works for you ... if you feel the need to open up more, PM me
Adrianax · 26-30, F
@BigGuy2
I've been call3d jaded but thats the first time for tortured soul & you very well may be right.. I think I've just survived alot.
Thanm you 😉 I added you as a friend.
BigGuy2 · 26-30, M
@Adrianax 🤭🤭🤭

 
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