Life Reset? Anyone else having these thoughts?

[b]Has life turned out the way you hoped it would when you still had hopes & dreams? Before life left you broken & jaded?[/b]
I'm just now starting a journey to try and "reset" my life.. start something new with new people in a new place, new life as much as possible.
Anyone else feel like they're ready to make BIG changes to your life and start almost all over? Im thinking BLANK slate except for maybe 5% of people you have to have contact with for me thats mainly family. Unfortunately I don't really have any friends. My best friend and pretty much only friend died at the end of June this year unexpectedly. Its brought on a lot of thoughts. I've decided to document it & my life on a social media site- see how far it actually goes, where "life happens" and ultimately do I end up happy & how long I stay in this state. I really want to be in the Midwest or West in a year, unless financial opportunities keep me here. Anyone from those areas and want to share about what its like there? I'm open to pretty much anywhere, my criteria is low cost & hopefully not *really small* lol I've lived in a small town and major cities, right now in the Southeast its kind of a "large city" it'll be a major city soon that I'm in. Large city or a mid sized city is probably my only second criteria.

I wonder how many more times this is going to happen to me as an adult before I'm at least stable & content hopefully somewhat happy..
[b]I never thought I'd be here at this age[/b]

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

I'm sure there are lots of people assessing and re-assessing where they are and what they're doing and questioning whether or not it's worth it.

I think I always knew I'd be the one taking on caring responsibilities for my parents as my siblings are all wrapped up in their own worlds and would be useless at it anyway.
What I didn't count on was being unwell myself !

So no is the answer. In not where I want to be and now I don't think I ever will be.
As humans we often start with a goal in sight and then adapt to changes that occur as a consequence of life.

Doesn't make you feel any better though

Adrianax · 22-25, F

@Picklebobble2
It isnt a answer with fairy dust but its real. Everyones assessing their lives but I want to take it to the next level where we can try & get a handle on our lives, depression ect & find the joy. It is true we adapt for the circumstances that life throws at us. Plain and simple. I feel like I'm just at a place where I'm ready to start a new; I've only got one life and it feels like I'm missing out or wasting it or just not doing something right. Granted I have truama as almost do & other "life experiences/issues" but I'm the only one that can make the changes to my life to see if perhaps it could maybe be better??

I get what you mean about you parents (probably more than you think) but either with your parents if their able or afterwards maybe you'll be in this place. Deciding what you want to do next, or maybe even doing it on smaller level.

mayguy · 46-50, M

@Adrianax @Picklebobble2
Both of you posted such excellent comments. 👏 Adriana, you're so right in taking responsibility for your life and future actions. Americans are very lucky in that (unlike many other countries) we can *mostly* control our own destiny.

And if you are considered moving to the MW, there is a member here you need to meet. She is *truly* special and I will pm you about her.