Do you ever feel life burnout?
I want to do things, find who I truly am, heal several fears. But I feel like I have no energy left in reserve. Even simple things can feel daunting. Ever feel that.?
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JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
Yes. But mostly it is because of physical exhaustion and the feebleness of aging. For example, I lack the stamina and alertness of a young man. I sit more, and take more naps. I do less and for less time than in my youth.
But part of it is mental. Why spend energy and time on something I've done before, if it is not worth it? As the years pass I am swayed into inaction by the cons rather than urged to act by the pros. More and more, the easiest path is to just do nothing, and to let things go.
One plus is I do not worry too much anymore about little or transient things, and I've learned to trust the tolerances of life. If I make a mistake people understand. Things adapt and recover. I do the best I can. I am also less rigid in some respects. But on the flip side, as I age I cull the tree of possibilities and am less open to new things, which can cause troubles.
My way forward is to just give in more to the slumps. If I start to nod off, I go to my bed and take a nap, or nap where I am seated, if I am outside and can do so. If work is taxing me, I stop early and pick it up the next day, which I can since I have a very flexible work schedule, and do not need to ask permission to alter it or even tell people about it, within limits. On here, I block a lot, rather than confront people or situations. When driving, I slow down and move right and let the trouble pass me by. I am seldom in a hurry.
I wish I had more drive to do chores. I have small projects around the apartment that need to get done but languish in inactivity for months or years. Like sorting through papers and things to decide what to keep and what to toss. Someday I should just throw it all out. I cannot recall the last time I ever looked at it, LOL! My youth is a faded memory which nobody, not even me, cares about anymore. And I could die soon. As one approaches death the noise of life matters less, and the simple pleasures and peaceful things matter more. I let go more. Give the young people a chance, I say! Let them worry. I am on the way out, in some respects. Just keep the world running long enough for me to fade away in peace.
But part of it is mental. Why spend energy and time on something I've done before, if it is not worth it? As the years pass I am swayed into inaction by the cons rather than urged to act by the pros. More and more, the easiest path is to just do nothing, and to let things go.
One plus is I do not worry too much anymore about little or transient things, and I've learned to trust the tolerances of life. If I make a mistake people understand. Things adapt and recover. I do the best I can. I am also less rigid in some respects. But on the flip side, as I age I cull the tree of possibilities and am less open to new things, which can cause troubles.
My way forward is to just give in more to the slumps. If I start to nod off, I go to my bed and take a nap, or nap where I am seated, if I am outside and can do so. If work is taxing me, I stop early and pick it up the next day, which I can since I have a very flexible work schedule, and do not need to ask permission to alter it or even tell people about it, within limits. On here, I block a lot, rather than confront people or situations. When driving, I slow down and move right and let the trouble pass me by. I am seldom in a hurry.
I wish I had more drive to do chores. I have small projects around the apartment that need to get done but languish in inactivity for months or years. Like sorting through papers and things to decide what to keep and what to toss. Someday I should just throw it all out. I cannot recall the last time I ever looked at it, LOL! My youth is a faded memory which nobody, not even me, cares about anymore. And I could die soon. As one approaches death the noise of life matters less, and the simple pleasures and peaceful things matter more. I let go more. Give the young people a chance, I say! Let them worry. I am on the way out, in some respects. Just keep the world running long enough for me to fade away in peace.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
@Coralmist
I feel old, physically.
And I am starting to feel old, mentally. Or at least more mature and responsible. Yet sometimes I just tell myself, "If I do not do it, if I do not put in the effort, then who will? And who will do it properly?" I have learned to be probing and annoying because frankly too many people are not, or are lazy, or stupid, or ignorant, etc. Especially at work. Off work, I pretty much keep to myself, though.
As for papers, I think I just need to sort by age and start with the oldest. I have starting doing that with the nearly 2 GB of work e-mails I have. I may retire in 9 years, so that gives me time.
I feel old, physically.
And I am starting to feel old, mentally. Or at least more mature and responsible. Yet sometimes I just tell myself, "If I do not do it, if I do not put in the effort, then who will? And who will do it properly?" I have learned to be probing and annoying because frankly too many people are not, or are lazy, or stupid, or ignorant, etc. Especially at work. Off work, I pretty much keep to myself, though.
As for papers, I think I just need to sort by age and start with the oldest. I have starting doing that with the nearly 2 GB of work e-mails I have. I may retire in 9 years, so that gives me time.
SW-User
That is my constant state. My only choice is to push through. Be a good mom and build up this new life for us. Everything is push. My joy is surviving another day. It’s really hard to not be self destructive. Which drives me insane because I want to heal and find my way.
I’m sorry you’re feeling it. I tell myself it’s part of the process and when my day comes, it’ll be sweet. Best to you. I know you’re strong.
I’m sorry you’re feeling it. I tell myself it’s part of the process and when my day comes, it’ll be sweet. Best to you. I know you’re strong.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@SW-User aww, ty friend, you are strong too, truly!!🌺
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