A person who sexually abuses and harasses others

will hardly ever take accountability. in their mind they were entitled to sexualising you without your consent ,implied or expressed, and there are no boundaries,rights or autonomy the person subjected to their abuse was or is in hold of. you most certainly can not speak about your experience with an abuser of any nature and not be reminded of those things,by both the person exercising abuse and those enabling them.

But I apologised
Why didnt you say stop
Why now
Why not approach them privately
I have apologised so many times what else do you want ne to do
I have been nothing but nice so far but no more

you are disgusting

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HijabaDabbaDoo · F

There's a pattern with abusers both in the past and present on here. They build a circle they can fall back on. A circle that testifies for their redeeming characteristics. There's no desire to use critical thinking with people that make you feel safe, even for a second. This clouded judgement really enables a lot of people here. More so in the past but it still happens.
I'm glad you spoke up💙

PepsiColaP

@HijabaDabbaDoo yup,its the 'but youve never been innapropriate with me / I always enjoyed you flirting with me / They dont know what they are talking about / The people who know you know youre not a predator etc'. cool you had positive experiences with that person yourself,im glad,but it doesnt reedeem how they behaved towards me and other girls here. its similar to when soneone comes out as an abuser (rapist/pedophile/murderer) irl and they may have a family/career/friends etc.,Just because they do not victimize every person in their lives it doesnt mean they didnt commit the things they did towards the actual victims

SUPERVlXEN · F

Those acting in abusive/harassing ways is one thing, and it’s likely in their DNA. The enablers tho, they’re a special kind. I’ve had to deal with these people over my stay here. The enablers are the ones making it possible for the abusive/harassing people to continue their shitty behavior without consequences.

My experience has been that when I’ve confronted them, the enablers will tell me stuff similar to the quotes you’ve made here. The enablers wants to see the good in the ones being confronted and at times even start attacking me on my character.

At the same time these (the enablers) are the same talking about how we can make this a better place to stay.

PepsiColaP

@SUPERVlXEN I see all of them and I dont forget either. and I will speak up whenever I want ,now,tomorrow,ten years from now,what they did and who they are at their core remains the same to me

SUPERVlXEN · F

@PepsiColaP
Oh, I do notice both the abusive/harassing ones as their enablers. Not only the ones where I’m targeted.

Sepia · 36-40, F

Abuses to enablers are like their addiction, it can make them insatiable..the euphoria of sticking to it as it was socially unacceptable, the more who oppose to it the more they fight againts it, both minds are distorted … even if it is too late for them.

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

They are so weird I don't care if I expose them now. Enough with the crap. Like using the same pics for over 5 years isn't suspicious enough. It's insane.

PepsiColaP

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether or weaponising mental health and homosexuality. im glad you asked if phones are allowed in mental health facilities. Especially 24/7. the manipulation with that person nvr stops

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

@PepsiColaP I was just going to mention that. They commented on it justifying it like everything else and when all the other comments contradicted with their comment they deleted it. That made my job easier tbh.

SatyrService · M

if you can stand a Long read

https://similarworlds.com/education/3400455-do-You-know-WHY-power-corrupts-Im-shocked-shocked

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