A person who sexually abuses and harasses others

will hardly ever take accountability. in their mind they were entitled to sexualising you without your consent ,implied or expressed, and there are no boundaries,rights or autonomy the person subjected to their abuse was or is in hold of. you most certainly can not speak about your experience with an abuser of any nature and not be reminded of those things,by both the person exercising abuse and those enabling them.

But I apologised
Why didnt you say stop
Why now
Why not approach them privately
I have apologised so many times what else do you want ne to do
I have been nothing but nice so far but no more

you are disgusting

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HijabaDabbaDoo · F

There's a pattern with abusers both in the past and present on here. They build a circle they can fall back on. A circle that testifies for their redeeming characteristics. There's no desire to use critical thinking with people that make you feel safe, even for a second. This clouded judgement really enables a lot of people here. More so in the past but it still happens.
I'm glad you spoke up💙

PepsiColaP

@HijabaDabbaDoo yup,its the 'but youve never been innapropriate with me / I always enjoyed you flirting with me / They dont know what they are talking about / The people who know you know youre not a predator etc'. cool you had positive experiences with that person yourself,im glad,but it doesnt reedeem how they behaved towards me and other girls here. its similar to when soneone comes out as an abuser (rapist/pedophile/murderer) irl and they may have a family/career/friends etc.,Just because they do not victimize every person in their lives it doesnt mean they didnt commit the things they did towards the actual victims