Getting along with people or making new friends is such a bother in the adult world...

People are more untrusting than ever, traits like kindness and humbleness have become exploitable weaknesses, people stopped using their brains and started making up their minds about others based on emotions and buzzwords because they're so overloaded by information. A lot of young people are depressed and miserable, unable to find friends, lovers or simply too afraid to try. it's a very gray picture to paint but from my perspective the world has gotten a lot more selfish and cynical.

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

A lot of us adults are depressed, miserable, unable to find friends, lovers or simply too afraid to try too. It's not just a youth issue.

Partly, we realise that we don't need to bother with any of that to have a rewarding fulfilling life. Partly, we have children and families that are split apart so there's a lot of jading and burning where you don't feel you want to try any more.

For me, I'm better off alone. My youngest daughter turns 5 in a week. her mum (my ex) is refusing to allow me to attend her 'official' 5th birthday party. So I am the best dad to her I can be on the days I get to see her (4 a fn at present). My adult kids do their own thing but we all stay in touch. Dating/romance/intimacy/relationships are completely off the table.

Plus I'm very anti-social/introverted and do not like being in places where there are people I don't know and I don't have a safe 'escape route' if I have an anxiety/panic attack. I 'socialise' 10x more at work than out of work and I never really socialise out of work with people from my work either. Just not the done thing.